I wonder if the title of this thread was meant to be rhetorical because seriously...of course you are an asshole for doing what you did.

You cant undo what you already did but at least have the decency to tell her the truth so she can decide whether to dump your ass.

Is she just saying she is pregnant? have you gone to the doctor with her? I know some girls that are that fucking crazy.

shes one fertile bitch...



other then that, yeah your an asshole for cheating...but i could care less really...so you love the girl, okay, sex with others is purely physical...okay...big fuckin deal...ever heard of a swinger? maybe thats a lifestyle choice you might like.

asshole written all over...go jump out of a building and end life quick

you don't even need to say sorry to this guy.

Let's put it this way. If you truly love someone you will never ever do something to hurt them let alone cheat on him/her.

The first thing you should do is get tested to see if you got any disease while you were cheating. Then stop your cheating and put all your efforts into supporting your gf and the baby.

Think about you gaining 50 to 70lbs and looking all fat and ugly and image how your gf would feel about yourself. See you wouldn't think you are affractive anymore too. If you love someone apparence doesn't matter.

lol right on!

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i think some counselling for you would help cuz clearly you have problems.

your not only an asshole but a damn jerk off

instead of spending ur time fuking now u need to take responsible.. and take care of the baby

if there was a sequel to Knocked Up you would be the star.
Knocked up 2.

tsk, ess hoe.

speechless

i don't know how you questioned yourself being an asshole, the title should clearly be "I am an asshole".

You were an asshole for getting her pregnant to begin with. NEXT!

Don't worry the kids probably not yours.. while your out doing what your doing someone else tapped that shit and You get to raise his baby.

Berz out.

Wow. The hypocrisy on this thread. Apart from the black & white portion of right and wrong, has anyone ever considered the human factor of this equation. Simply put, the line between right and wrong is crystal and easy under the normal and comfortable circumstances. Can all you lot say the same under extraordinary circumstances?

Stealing is wrong, murder is wrong, and of course, cheating is wrong but considering the situation, I can't say I blame the OP.

+1

i didnt bother reading anyone's post

well i did, some i skimmed through.

you know what, I don't blame the OP. men have needs, and when you're standing on a muddy hill trying to climb upwards, one slip and you're gone.


don't confess to your gf, you risk the chance of her leaving you and a lot of stuff being really fucked up.

it's better if you just kept it hush, cut off communications with your fuck buddy and forget about her forever.

lol it is possible to love more than one person at once, and i'm sure you love your gf and all, but men have needs too. your right hand or left aint gonna fucking cut it forever. all men know that.

and yeah that's a bit sketchy, your gf getting pregnant twice? on the pill AND spermicides?

she either stopped taking the pill, the kid isnt yours, or you have super sperm.

anyways, as a man i know the physical part of a relationship is important, it's like having a ferrari in your garage and not even able being to start it up, just sitting in it is not good enough. another ferrari is gonna pull up and if they offer you a ride, you're gonna get in.

bottom line, brush it under a rug and forget about it for the rest of your life. you have other shit more important to worry about, like your kid.

i would tell her if there wasn't a kid on the way.

but there's a kid on the way, and you don't wanna be forced on child support and all that crap and imagine having a kid that's never had a "real" father. that sucks.

just fucking brush it under a rug. if u really wanna tell her, tell her, and if she's got half a brain she'll stay with you for the kids sake.

holy shit this is absurd! i cant believe what im reading.
first of all, YES it was a wrong move to leave her just cuz U felt like shit that u got her prego the first time around. thats what we call SELFISH.
second of all, FUCK NO it was not justified for u to cheat! it DOES NOT matter what the reason is!
third of all, u are a shallow inconsiderate fuck to not give half a shit about ure gf's efforts to lose the weight and cheating JUST CUZ OF HER APPEARANCE.
Finally, marriage is not for u. u'll be one of the fags thats got 5 divorces by the time their 35

i hope she finds out and chops off ure balls.

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fuck that, if shes on the pill and said he didnt need condoms, id put my trust in the girl, if she slips up and forgets a pill and she gets prego, fuck that, abortion and im outta there.

ive gotten a girl prego before, and we had an abortion...its never the same after that...you just cant look at them the same way..

Whatever.

Women who hold out on sex to gain leverage in a relationship is SELFISH too IMO.

Although it's absolutely unclear why she was holding out on the OP but its NORMAL for one to seek fixes when one's natural necessities are left unsatisfied. Women have necessities themselves too. If a man can't provide for his girl/family shelter & food, I wouldn't find it far too unreasonable should she start entertaining other avenues to fulfill her needs. As dense as you ALL may be... SEX is A NECESSITY for men.

I'm rather surprised at some of the posts here... so I'm motivated to post here when I wouldn't otherwise.

ANY ANY ANY of the OP's "needs" should go out the fucking door the minute the GF decided that the she was keeping the baby. Either that, or break relationship ties with the GF and continue to wet the dick in random holes BUT pay the financial support and be involved with the child (that is if the mother wants it).

The child's welfare goes beyond anything else.

Noir, do you really think that the mother was holding out sex in this case for emotional reasons? I don't think she was in this case -- IIRC pregnancy comes with associated hormonal changes which change the sex drive.

if you are not ready to be a parent, learn to bag that shit up, abortions are tough on a girl's mental and physical health
and yes, you are an asshole for cheating on her, its never justified, and if you really liked your girlfriend, you would never had

best thing to do right now is to tell her so she knows how childish you really are and learns to stay away from people like you, if you're lucky she'll eventually forgive you

Dunno. From what I can gather, the relationship was experiencing turbulence post-abortion. Doesn't matter though.

Not that I would know, as I've never fathered a child. But I wouldn't imagine a girl losing her sex drive completely upon pregnancy. If anything, I thought in general, girls in gestation would want it more.

Perhaps the refusal of sex goes deeper than just the female being in the state of pregnancy?

yeah you're an asshole but you should tell her and let her decide to stay with you or not. Then if she does stay with you then you better make her happy for the rest of her life.

Well it's obvious the OP is an asshole, a big one.

Yes Noir- no sex goes far deeper than just the physical state of being preggo... it goes into emotions, and hormonal as well as the obvious phsyical changes of her body.

Yeah I get men have needs but you know what she needs after she pushed out his fucking baby? She needs fucking love, and support. She's fat, how do you think that makes her feel? Attractive? Beautiful? Able to turn on her partner like she did when she was skinny... Yeah right. She feels ugly, undesired, and unattractive, you think that's going to make her want sex MORE... I'll give you the answer: no it won't.

And do you think all partners (men) who knock their partners up should have the "right" to cheat since they're not getting laid for x months? Fuck that. And it would seem that here is the popular opinion. He had NO right to go out and bang a girl because his gf was having his baby. Sorry- whack the fuck off.

Not to mention she's probably tired, as should he be... but instead he's out fucking girls. How about stay home next time, help her out with the baby all day all night, massage her feet and then fuck your gf?

And if THAT fails easy... get relationship help... like sex counselling it can't be uncommon for this no-sex shit to go down post-pregnancy. You're just a dickwad for handling like you did.

U are one of those guys that makes the other guys look bad...please just take care of the child and support your gf for life , bye a-hole....

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