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Old 10-04-2009, 05:45 PM   #51
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lol, keep in mind, i was young. that's my excuse

well, my friend was dating this guy for a while.. nothing serious. their relationship only lasted 1 - 2 months. i wasn't really close to the girl either, we only hung out with each other because of mutual friends. i forgot how i met him but i thought he was cute. i was iffy about seeing him. we didn't get anything close to serious but my, "friend," didn't want to talk to me after that. she still claims to this day that i was coming inbetween them. whatever, i don't really care. not like i fucked the guy like she did

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Old 10-05-2009, 01:10 PM   #52
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well...

My close friend is currently dating my ex, it's just kinda weird when she starts coming to me to complain about him.

Other than that, yes it was weird at first, but apparently she knows what she's gotten herself into. So it's all peachy.


I say if you're not comfortable with the potential disasters that may come from it, seriously let the matchmaking friend know. Unless the ex is super hot and you really really wanna get in her pants
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Old 10-05-2009, 01:18 PM   #53
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i would assume even if your friend told you "its over n done", he is probably going to have a grudge against you if you just start dating his ex .. so i'd say, friendship always ahead of relationship. wanna gain the girl and maybe lose the friend? (since ya never know what really will happen) your choice.
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Unless the ex is super hot and you really really wanna get in her pants
I believe that this is true for 99.9999928374623% of the human male population.
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Old 10-05-2009, 06:21 PM   #55
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or u pretend u didnt know





its like point at him...than point at her...combines..


REALLY?
say what???

u guys hooked up before?

oh danggg....my bad guys...didt know

sounds good...i'll try that..lol
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Old 10-05-2009, 07:30 PM   #56
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I believe that this is true for 99.9999928374623% of the human male population.
sorry kardboard, you got it wrong.


Male population : 100%.
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Old 10-05-2009, 07:48 PM   #57
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true friends will always understand. only fools riddled with jealousy will have a problem with it. that is... GIVEN that you start dating the ex like a month/2 months after and not the "flip the phone line" situation
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depends how close i am to that buddy
close enough for ur pee pee to touch

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i would assume even if your friend told you "its over n done", he is probably going to have a grudge against you if you just start dating his ex .. so i'd say, friendship always ahead of relationship. wanna gain the girl and maybe lose the friend? (since ya never know what really will happen) your choice.
He said it's over and done, and it's been done for awhile. He kept telling me to go for it see what happens. He's in a new relationship now so iunno

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how close is the friend? i wouldnt go after a girl from one of my core group of bro's but if it was one of those outriggers you see from time to time get er done.
at the end of the day like someone else already said, pussy is pussy
Not within my core group of bro's, but yeah like you said someone who I see once in awhile to just catch up.
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I don't understand why a friend wouldnt let you date his ex unless he still had feelings for them. The ones that dont have feelings for their exes anymore but dont want you to date them are just insecure. Its all fair game as long as you talk to your friend about the situation. I'll let any of my friends dates my exes. They are my ex for a reason.
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Nope! No way! I dont accept second hand guys! :-p
But of course that is not the main reason why I would not go out with my friend's ex.
Principle, dignity and respect are the main reasons.
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Nope! No way! I dont accept second hand guys! :-p
But of course that is not the main reason why I would not go out with my friend's ex.
Principle, dignity and respect are the main reasons.
What do dignity and respect have to do with not dating a friend's ex?
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What do dignity and respect have to do with not dating a friend's ex?
maybe she doesnt want to be labeled as a whore or easy?
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What do dignity and respect have to do with not dating a friend's ex?
Maybe she is still in high school.
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maybe she doesnt want to be labeled as a whore or easy?
Completely eliminating someone from your possible dating pool just because they've gone out with someone else you know is retarTed. It doesn't make you a whore OR easy. If you go ahead and fuck all of your ex's friends, sure. But just date?

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That sounds about right.
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Nope! No way! I dont accept second hand guys! :-p
But of course that is not the main reason why I would not go out with my friend's ex.
Principle, dignity and respect are the main reasons.
Girls with too many rules don't make for great flings, nor do they make for great relationships either.

It's so pretentious.
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i guess it depends on if the friend still have feelings for that person;
if the friend is okay for you to go for it-honestly, then i don't
see why not. I know people who go behind their friend's back to do it, when it
isn't even a big deal, because it doesn't bother them. But the fact they're lying to their own close friends and making such a big deal seperates them.
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maybe she doesnt want to be labeled as a whore or easy?
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also respect your friend's emotions. Even though she said that she is fine with it, I would rather play it safe.

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If you go ahead and fuck all of your ex's friends, sure. But just date?
For the guys perspectives:

Why bother dating someone when you cannot take the person home? Anyways, dont you think it is just a waste of your energy, money and time? Ask that to yourself.

For my perspectives:

Why bother dating someone when I cannot move into another phase of relationship (which is making love with him)? Dont you think it is just a waste of my energy, money and time? I dont even have to ask that to myself...I already know the answer.

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Girls with too many rules don't make for great flings, nor do they make for great relationships either.

It's so pretentious.
try to explain this to me because it does not sound logical. :-p
What is the correlation between not dating your friend's ex and dont make for great flings nor do they make great relationships either?


Do you mean that I only have to date my friend's ex in order to have a great fling and relationship?

Can I not do that with another man who's not an ex of my friend?

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Completely eliminating someone from your possible dating pool just because they've gone out with someone else you know is retarTed.
That is why you go out and network!!! There are millions of people in Vancouver itself and billions everywhere in the world.

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That is why you go out and network!!! There are millions of people in Vancouver itself and billions everywhere in the world.

And that is why so many people who are married or steady bf/gf's go out and sleep with other people.

Is it right, no, but I firmly believe a person can be interested in more than one person at a time. Hence all the people who leave one relationship for another in a short period of time.

Dating someone's ex, sure the ocean is big with lots of other fishes, but if you have a connection with someone, there is no law that says you can't especially if they feel the same way back. It takes 2 to tangle so even if you were interested and the other party wasn't, then there isn't an issue. If both parties were interested, why not?

Heck, so if dating a friend's ex is being easy or whorish, what does dating 5-10 different guys/girls a year make you? A saint?

In my case, I know both dudes and the girl. The 2 dudes were not friends, nor did they know each other existed. The girl left the first guy for the other. So as an innocent third party, is it right for the first dude to be upset with me?
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For the guys perspectives:

Why bother dating someone when you cannot take the person home? Anyways, dont you think it is just a waste of your energy, money and time? Ask that to yourself.

For my perspectives:

Why bother dating someone when I cannot move into another phase of relationship (which is making love with him)? Dont you think it is just a waste of my energy, money and time? I dont even have to ask that to myself...I already know the answer.
So just because you dated this guy's friend in the past, you are suddenly restricted from advancing your relationship with a friend of his, to the point of intimate love-making?

That's ridiculous; the only thing that should be stopping you from taking the relationship is yourself and your partner, not the people around you. Sure, you might be conscious of how you appear to others if you're dating your ex's friend, but you're dating your bf/gf, NOT the people around them...

Girls these days are too concerned with how they appear to others.
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Heck, so if dating a friend's ex is being easy or whorish, what does dating 5-10 different guys/girls a year make you? A saint
Hooah.

Plus, I think we need to keep soemthign in mind--stealing a girl or guy is different from dating an ex. I'd have no problems with any of my buddies dating any of my exes, it's not a big deal. We don't go out anymore for a reason; I won't begrudge either of them happiness if they get along well together.
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