Feeling Lonely? You're not alone.

[Tapioca]

Originally Posted by Mr.C

Here? Shit, unless you are part of the major, uh, 'ethnic groups', you're pretty much screwed. I rarely see a group of, say, Indians, Filipinos and Chinese hanging out together. Everyone is all very segregated.

As a Chinese guy who doesn't quite "fit the mold", I would say that there's just as much snobbery within ethnic groups as there is between ethnic groups.

[spoon.ek9]

Originally Posted by jpark

not trying to generalize everyone living in abbotsford, i even have some good friends and previous co workers that i was close with that resides there. However, once in a while when i stop by any fast food restaurants/gas stations or any public places in abbotsford, i get random stares/glares from a lot of white folks like i just came from the outter space, cant speak for langley though, as i never really go there.

i must also conclude that i also live in maple ridge and have been living here for while, and although the asian population is minimal compare to many cities in vancouver, i generally dont get that uncomfortable feel as oppose to when im in abbotsford

This is how I felt many times in Alberta and also in the states the last time I went for dinner (at an Applebee's). This is also part of the reason why I love living in the lower mainland because we see such a large diversity of people that seeing a race other than your own is the norm. Back when I lived there, being openly ridiculed because of your race was fairly normal.

Originally Posted by GLOW

+1 on rude. seen that before and i hate it.

+1 again on the general attitudes of people here. i've live in alberta as well - and other provinces. boy the difference is astounding.

As I've stated above, Alberta has it's own problems too. But yes, when speaking of the non-racist Albertans, they are much friendlier and welcoming than people here in general. The asian population in Alberta has increased quite a lot from what I hear so I hope the amount of racism has decreased.

Originally Posted by Tapioca

As a Chinese guy who doesn't quite "fit the mold", I would say that there's just as much snobbery within ethnic groups as there is between ethnic groups.

I've been that guy before too. Didn't quite fit in with the hongers, didn't quite fit in with the other crowds. Eventually you find your way and it's important that people out there understand they have to keep trying and put some effort into it.

[MrGoodbar]

RS meet to break the lonely cycle.

[too_slow]

^can we have an RS food meet instead? I would like to check out some of the 'hidden gems of the city' known to some of the resident foodies here

[LiquidTurbo]

Originally Posted by too_slow

^can we have an RS food meet instead? I would like to check out some of the 'hidden gems of the city' known to some of the resident foodies here

They wouldn't be 'gems' if they were shared with the masses..

[Durrann]

Originally Posted by MG1

Yeah, I forget to do that myself, but what can you do when your neighbour's 26 year old daughter is so hot, she'll melt your popsicle.

Tanning out back......... hells no I ain't moving. No mountains or lake view where I live, but..........


One day while washing the truck, she comes out in an outfit I cannot begin to describe........... I totally forgot I had a hose in my hand. LOL

i'm trying to imagine this in my mind....LOL

can i come over on a hot sunny day?

[Mr.Money]

Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp

Part of it have to do with technology.
I mean 10years ago when ppl aren't listening to thier ipods, whatsapp, or using thier smart phone is a lot easier to strike conversion with someone on the street.

Now, ppl have thier earphones a lot of timnes, texting, checking FB, twitter, etc on thier smart phone while not paying attention to the streets or even want to talk to anyone at all.

This is me...the ipod with music playing...
i blame it on the Fucking Bums asking for a dollar & it gets annoying.

And Vancouver has a fucked up Vibe...so many people looking ahead in their own world never paying attention to the opposite sex....A Few but i know a majority will never strike a conversation on the streets unless its asking for Directions around the city.

Restaurants are one of the places i only notice people will feel comfortable enough to talk & relax.

Originally Posted by LiquidTurbo

Every race is cliquey.

x2 you see most in groups only speaking their home country language & Once and awhile you can hear some speak English.

[MG1]

Originally Posted by Durrann

i'm trying to imagine this in my mind....LOL

can i come over on a hot sunny day?

Italian women are so fine........

olive tanned skin, ftw

She is so friendly too. Says hi to me all the time with big smile and cute fluttering fingers wave. Trying hard to describe her without being disrespectful.

In fact, the whole neighbourhood is so friendly. Everybody greets each other...... joggers, complete strangers, even the local bag lady is friendly. It's a great neighbourhood. It is Burnaby, though.

As I said in another thread, I say hi to everybody - it becomes contagious at work, at home, anywhere. To guys, it's the ol' guy nod of the head, to women it's the smile and a quick wave........ if she's hot, I do the up and down check her assets after she passes by, thing. If caught looking, a nice smile of approval, LOL. They usually smile back. Hot chicks know guys check them out and the best compliment they can get is a guy checking them out......... at least that's how I see it. Maybe it's the harmless dirty old man look that I have, hee hee.

[Yodamaster]

I have two really good friends, some people think that you need more than that.

People forget that really knowing one or two people is more fun than trying to vaguely remember a lot of them.


What I'm actually frustrated with is the fact that a white guy like me has such a hard time with white women....

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[7seven]

I might be in the minority here (no pun intended), but the group of close friends I hang out with is pretty diverse. I'm chinese, my girlfriend is white, majority of my close friends are white, a few other asians and east indians.

I find on the streets of Vancouver, people are really set in their own world just focused on getting from point a to b, that can come across as unfriendly, I will admit I have been guilty of this myself. I've had randoms stop me on the street to engage in conversation, but I honestly had no time. But I find when out on down time at Kits beach, bars, lounges and pubs, people are generally friendly and will engage in convo with you and get to know you. Personally I always sit at the bar of lounge/pub/resto if I can, I find people are way more open engaging with strangers at bar seating rather than if you got your own table/high top/booth.

[MR_BIGGS]

The neighbourhood I grew up in and where my parents still live is so diverse. Most families that live there, have been there a long time. You have Italians mostly on the corner lots, lots of Chinese, handful of East-Indians and then a bunch of other mixes.

There are three elementary schools 5 mins of each other, a park, seniors centre and recreation centre all within walking distance. Everyone knows each other, and theres always the handwave, or the head nod or the smile when you walk by them on the street. It's not uncommon to be walking home and the guy on the corner lot is watering his garden and he strikes up a convo with you for like 30 minutes. Or waving at the old lady that lives down the street, talking about her grandchildren..etc etc.. Even the younger families, who have just recently moved in are welcoming and friendly.