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07-19-2012, 02:42 PM
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#26 | | I keep RS good
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Originally Posted by dinosaur  That is questionable. | it is not questionable.
thats why men watch porn
when i watch porn, i have all these instant streaming sites.
i can instantly sort through hundreds of girls
and of course if i can pick, i pick the ones i think are hottest.
they are usually hotter than girls in real life.
butttt....
i'd still prefer a real woman over porn any day.
if i'm not initiating or i'd rather jerk off to porn than fuck my gf or whoever is near by. it probably means there's some problem... with her. LOL.
she probably not attractive.
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07-19-2012, 05:27 PM
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There is NO DOUBT that there are a lot of very hot women doing porn but I have seen my fair share, and IMO....the majority are not that hot at all.
But thats just me....I don't find overly made overly plucked girls with fake titties all that hot. ..especially when they open their mouths and make whine while they are being railed.
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07-19-2012, 05:54 PM
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#28 | | In RS I Trust
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no question those whiny moans drive me crazy, porn is porn it's some times better to rub one out to that then the real thing but nothing beats getting a piece of booty.
As the OP's question just start rubbing him kissing his neck and once he get's hard it's game on. Or just be blunt "I want to fuck you" if you do make these moves and he pushes you away I think the best idea would be to open the line of communication and talk to him about it, he might not know what's up or just try new things. Outfits and toys etc
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07-19-2012, 05:58 PM
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#29 | | Limited to Fight Club
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Also it sounds like the OP doesn't really have a very good sexual relationship if she needs to ask strangers, rather than just say to him "You don't fuck me enough" because he's obviously oblivious to his male duties in the relationship.
I make sure my girls knows who's fucking her every time she sits down on a sore pussy
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07-19-2012, 06:11 PM
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How old is the OP? think of the age of a lot of members on here. They might just not know yet or have the confidence to talk about a situation like this. What's what's good about this member's like yourself and other more experienced member's can tell the OP what the fucks up and take control.
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07-19-2012, 10:27 PM
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Originally Posted by murd0c How old is the OP? think of the age of a lot of members on here. They might just not know yet or have the confidence to talk about a situation like this. What's what's good about this member's like yourself and other more experienced member's can tell the OP what the fucks up and take control. | | |
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07-19-2012, 10:31 PM
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I'm 22, he's 24. This is my first boyfriend and I've talked to him more than once about it. At this point it's just a matter of him not wanting to initiate around 99% of the time now. My sex drive is really high = once a week doesn't cut it. His previous exes didn't have a similar sex drive at all.
Thank you everyone for your replies! Heavily taking them into consideration and hopefully will be employing them this weekend 
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07-20-2012, 03:04 PM
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Originally Posted by El Bastardo The following is a reply from the anonymous memberAt this point it's just a matter of him not wanting to initiate around 99% of the time now. |
He's watching porn, I guarantee it.
He is no longer physically attracted to the OP. He finds her boring compared to whatever he's viewing or getting.
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07-20-2012, 03:19 PM
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doesn't initiate=porn
ran out of toothpaste=porn
doesn't cuddle after sex=porn
cat pissed on the sofa=porn
said 'no' to sex one night=porn
didn't say 'I love you'=porn
backed into a pole=porn
Srs though....the answer isn't ALWAYS "b/c he watches porn" and no longer digs her bits. Maybe he just got tired of always initiating....who knows what is going through his mind right now?!
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07-20-2012, 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Jason00S2000 He's watching porn, I guarantee it.
He is no longer physically attracted to the OP. He finds her boring compared to whatever he's viewing or getting. | i don't believe that.. watching porn makes me initiate all the time...something about wanting to feel for myself that frikken nasty dirty spitting multi hole shit i've seen...sadly i still don't know how it feels aside from the more tame classic stuff 
maybe it's not being bored of you but of how you guys do it? to be frank having sex in only one or two positions can get boring.
put on the outfit and grab a whip and make him the bitch/slave for one night, bet you he'll stay hard and spew fast (sorry to be crude previous paragraph aside of course  )
dam i have to say this also ..... where have you been all my life? seriously ....sigh
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07-20-2012, 04:43 PM
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#36 | | Willing to stick a finger in a guys butt for the sake of science
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spoon...
little spoon, wiggle a bit = rub butt in his crotch. giggle when gets hard and shoot coy glance over shoulder.
big spoon, reach around. grab peen. and when he looks behind, give innocent bambi eyes.
if watching tv/movie, give bj.
if playing vid game, give bj.
if watching movie at theater, just when the lights dim before movie starts, whisper dirty things in his ear and watch him squirm for 2 hours.
having dinner, check him out while you're waiting to be seated and mention you have something for dessert for him later on.
just got home, push him against door and make out while grinding up against him.
in public, eye contact + innocent graze then walk away.
he's driving, reach over and rub thigh/crotch. or if he's holding your hand, direct it towards the veej and let him have a feel. say something like "i can't wait to get you home.."
at nightmarket, stand at bbq booth and ponder "meat on a stick" and be like "should i get this... or will you be giving that to me later tonight..?"
at the beach, talk about how you hate being sandy and suggest showering together after.
drinking alchy, just jump him.
going fishing, "so how hard is your rod right now?"
taking the bus/skytrain, text him that you're horny.
after he showers, "i just wanna taste how clean you are!"
after you shower, sit nekkid in towel with hair wet. when he looks over, wink and motion him over.
email/fb/text/whatsapp/bbm dirty pics "for when we see each other next".
having ice cream, "i could give you some cream...hehehe"
do you have handcuffs, blindfolds, toys, etc? Pull them out of your bag when in his room.
Two tactics here can be employed.
You can be confused because you don't know how or why they're in your bag... ask him "what are these for, babe..?"
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You can own it. "I brought these because I'm going to show you how to use it and I'm going to like it."
ask for it. you are his girlfriend. you are human. you are allowed to have needs. you are allowed to voice them.
"babe, i wanna fuck" / "can you make love to me?"
at any time, i do believe that rubbing on your boyfriend is enough, you can throw in a whimper or two here and there just to give him a taste of how bad you want it. if you enjoy bjs, give them generously.
eye contact +1.
special sex smile reserved only for him +1.
random, enthusiastic, often bjs +1.
commence the humpings to be had.
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07-20-2012, 04:54 PM
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Deny it all you want, but he's excited by something else and not her.
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07-20-2012, 06:39 PM
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Me and my recent ex had the same issue, I have a rather low sex drive for a guy (Or at least with her I did after 4 years..) and she claimed to constantly want to fuck.. but would either not initiate it, or go about the wrong way.
What's the wrong way you ask?
Her idea of initiating was by trying to smother me with romantic kisses, this doesn't turn me on at all, it just annoyed me, in order for me to want to fuck her, she has to make me want to fuck.
So how could she get me to want to fuck? Simple, put my penis in her mouth for a few minutes.
Initiate with a blow job and get all the sex you want. If that's not good advice for your situation, I don't know what is.
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07-20-2012, 07:27 PM
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#39 | | How I Mod your mother
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^But I think women mentally complicate things. The solution is so basic it's almost impossible to think of.
They probably think of it more like, if he's not initiating that probably means he wont wanna do it so Im not going to bother. Then if he turns me down i'll look stupid.
That and sometimes women dont always want hardcore porn type of sex either, and when they're in the mood for romance, they start with that but for guys it doesnt work that way and it just keeps cycling.
Damn that was confusing to type...I need a nap
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07-20-2012, 08:38 PM
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just say I'm horny, fuck me now,
put hand on thigh and slowly move it up and down his pants,
or just start giving him a bj
I'd personally just do either 1 or 3
op why are you not initiating sex? He's with you, so obviously he wants you and therefore being a man he isn't going to say no to sex.
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07-20-2012, 08:45 PM
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#41 | | RS.net, helping ugly ppl have sex since 2001
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seriously, if you're a girl and you want your BF to fuck you, stop it with the games, stop it with the "hey, do you think i'm good looking in the underwear BS"
MEN are fooking retarded and we went through our entire lives trying to decipher what women think. JUST GO and tell him, FUCK ME now, NOTHING turns a guy on more when you give him a BJ, whisper in his ear that you want to fuck the shit out of him. If your BF doesn't respond, something is REALLY REALLY wrong.
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07-22-2012, 10:47 AM
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#42 | | Banned By Establishment
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sorry OP somewhat going on a tangent here:
dammit all this talk about getting her to initiate is getting me horny.... i'll admit i'm the hornier one in the relationship and i'm always initiating but sometimes it isnt enough (once or twice /week)...maybe i'm a sex addict (to some extent) now all these talk of putting it in the mouth and shit won't work when the roles are reversed. (of course she likes it (going down on her) it's the getting into the pants and getting her in the right frame of mind for it : the intitiation part i'm asking about)
since we're talking about initiating sex (or making love  )
what's the best way for your bf (or to the guys whats your best move) to initiate and guarantee some action?
and yes this is a serious post this thread has got me all horned out like reading the playboy letters page.
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07-22-2012, 01:09 PM
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#43 | | sneaky beaky like
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damn if only my girl did anything to get started
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07-22-2012, 04:14 PM
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I wish my girlfriend would have same sex drive as I have . Everytime I ask for sex , her excuse would be "tired, period, hungry, sleepy, too full, not in a mood, etc"
I am just starting to get disappointed at asking her anymore , = PORN
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07-23-2012, 12:02 AM
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^ i had that issue before
"is it ok that we don't have sex"
when it became the ONLY thing she says EVERY time i see her, i said, FUCK this, you can't always pull out this passive BS.
Before you're my gf, you swallowed, we had sex on the beach, at the aquarium, at the theaters and now you won't even want to have sex unless it's after a good shower on the bed, wtffffff.
so i told her, next time you're tired, ask me to jerk off for you and 50% of the time she gets horny too but at least I don't get turned down.
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07-23-2012, 01:09 AM
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#46 | | Limited to Fight Club
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Originally Posted by gumnny I wish my girlfriend would have same sex drive as I have . Everytime I ask for sex , her excuse would be "tired, period, hungry, sleepy, too full, not in a mood, etc"
I am just starting to get disappointed at asking her anymore , = PORN |
Don't be such a beta.
Ignore her. Be blatantly checking out other women. Let her know her pussy isn't worth SHIT to you. Watch her beg for your attention soon.
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07-23-2012, 01:30 AM
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fk I wish my gf had your sex drive..
I would be happy if she had 1/3 of yours
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07-23-2012, 11:06 AM
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#48 | | Limited to Fight Club
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Originally Posted by ShadowBun fk I wish my gf had your sex drive..
I would be happy if she had 1/3 of yours |
If you're not happy with what you have... DUMP HER!
If her sex drive isn't high enough, flat out leer at other women and TELL your girlfriend she is boring and doesn't do it for you anymore. Either she'll wig out and break up with you, or hold on for the ride as she tries to do anything she can to impress you.
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