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El Bastardo · 09-24-2012, 11:38 AM

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I'm 21, never had a girl friend, but have recently been hooking up with women at my school that I know through school clubs. In total I've been with 6 girls within the last 2 months and I find that after sex, I don't care for them anymore. I can be friends with them, but I don't want to fuck them or have them blow me. I was actually pretty bored with blow jobs. I don't think they were bad, some were inexperienced, but I didn't feel aroused or horny being with them.

We've also done it in public places like at my school's shower stall and showing up at their doorstep, so it's not like it's a boring always-at-the-same-place kind of thing. I sound like a girl, but I'm thinking that maybe I want to be in love with a girl and then the sex from that would be great. I'm currently dating a girl at my school and it's been great. Lots of things in common, don't know if it's love yet.

At this point, I'm not horny for her and I don't want to have sex. For one, it's too soon it's only been a week and also I don't want to hurt her when I have sex and maybe not want to be with her anymore.

Has anyone had or have the same situation as I do? I was so bored with a blowjob that I started counting the titles in the bathroom.

ShadowBun · 09-24-2012, 12:12 PM

try anal

nothing wrong with being bored of sex for some ppl. Some ppl just dont have the drive (with the partner)

dink · 09-24-2012, 12:27 PM

Casual sex with a friend/stranger doesn't last, gets boring, some people get attached and doesn't end well. If its with a significant other on the other hand its totally different story.
Some people get more attached emotionally and physically to their so.

Mr.HappySilp · 09-24-2012, 12:30 PM

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. If its with a significant other on the other hand its totally different story.
Some people get more attached emotionally and physically to their so.

Is ture I get attach to my left hand a lot more than my right hand

v.Rossi · 09-24-2012, 01:06 PM

i know exactly what you're explaining and all i can say is having sex with someone you love will always beat meaningless sex. i have never been in love, but i know it's a fact not an opinion.

having fuck buddies gets boring fast and sometimes the sex feels like a chore or an obligation. then at times you get impaired to a degree before seeing them just so they're that much more tolerable. good luck trying to end FWB situations, most people just take 'breaks' and continue to fall in the same old cycle again.

smoothie. · 09-24-2012, 05:10 PM

blowjob and counting ceiling tiles? sounds that girl needs to learn a few things.

maybe you're into guys instead.

vafanculo · 09-24-2012, 05:37 PM

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blowjob and counting ceiling tiles? sounds that girl needs to learn a few things.

maybe you're into guys instead.

Then he'd be counting tiles on the ground, instead.

You probably answered your own question. You desire feelings.
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Energy · 09-24-2012, 06:10 PM

50 Shades of Grey time.

blakgtp · 09-24-2012, 06:36 PM

i have a lot of sex drive. never had this problem. maybe try working out a bit? boost those testosterone levels. i mean no offence by this, but it is proven to increase sex hormones

AW607 · 09-24-2012, 06:51 PM

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Then he'd be counting tiles on the ground, instead.
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I found that extremely funny, sorry

Casual sex with many girls could potentially turn out to be monotonous and boring because of the lack of emotion... At least that's what I think it'll turn out to be like. Like the other guys here, I wholeheartedly agree that having a great relationship could lead to a great time in bed because of the physical as well as the emotional connection between the two of you. Give that a stab instead next time! Good luck

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akanam · 09-24-2012, 08:29 PM

instead of her always giving you oral, its time for you to give back and do it to her

don't forget about threesomes, find a extra girl. woooo,who doesn't like that shit.

Greenstoner · 09-24-2012, 09:05 PM

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Originally Posted by smoothie.

blowjob and counting ceiling tiles? sounds that girl needs to learn a few things.

maybe you're into guys instead.

NICE profile picture to go with this comment LOL

LiquidTurbo · 09-24-2012, 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by El Bastardo

The following is an anonymous post. If the original poster would like to reply to any comments, please PM me

I'm 21, never had a girl friend, but have recently been hooking up with women at my school that I know through school clubs. In total I've been with 6 girls within the last 2 months and I find that after sex, I don't care for them anymore. I can be friends with them, but I don't want to fuck them or have them blow me. I was actually pretty bored with blow jobs. I don't think they were bad, some were inexperienced, but I didn't feel aroused or horny being with them.

We've also done it in public places like at my school's shower stall and showing up at their doorstep, so it's not like it's a boring always-at-the-same-place kind of thing. I sound like a girl, but I'm thinking that maybe I want to be in love with a girl and then the sex from that would be great. I'm currently dating a girl at my school and it's been great. Lots of things in common, don't know if it's love yet.

At this point, I'm not horny for her and I don't want to have sex. For one, it's too soon it's only been a week and also I don't want to hurt her when I have sex and maybe not want to be with her anymore.

Has anyone had or have the same situation as I do? I was so bored with a blowjob that I started counting the titles in the bathroom.

Chronic fapper?

Ri2 · 09-25-2012, 07:17 AM

I feel like you want to experience sex with love not just the physical aspect of it. It is totally different. Sometimes you need the physical and it can be satisfying enough but sex with feelings is always so much more.

could be maybe you're into some crazy shit too? like you want to explore things? and i'm not talking about sex in public places, maybe like getting roughed up or mental foreplay?
i know a guy who cant get off on bjs alone, he needs the chick to get in his mental space and almost abuse him to an extent like make him feel like shit.
i also know a guy who smokes a lot of cigs/mj and his sex drive is super low. i mean like once every couple weeks is good for him low and barely any fapping at all.

when did you start having sex? recently? it takes a while to come into your own and really know what gets you off. sometimes the process can be uncomfortable either with yourself or your partner. there has to be a great deal of trust there when you're pushing each others boundaries you know.

PS: 50 Shades of Grey is for ROOKIES!

dinosaur · 09-25-2012, 10:23 AM

Maybe you expectations are too high...or, like smoothie pointed out, maybe you are gay?

Have you thought about other guys? Are you open to experimentation? Maybe it is something you should explore.

Or, as others have pointed out....maybe you have been hitting the porn a little too hard.

snails · 09-25-2012, 10:29 AM

6 partners within 2 months? i think the problem is you haven't had enough time with each particular girl to know what works really well for you or her, so you are just having essentially the same sex over and over, rather then sleeping with 6 girls, focus on the one and makes her get off, knowing you are doing a really good job can be a confidence booster for sure, everyone likes sex but also have their own preferences for how things are done, you can find what she likes and you like much better that way.

Sky_High · 09-25-2012, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by El Bastardo

I'm 21, never had a girl friend, but have recently been hooking up with women at my school that I know through school clubs. In total I've been with 6 girls within the last 2 months and I find that after sex, I don't care for them anymore

Would you please share which clubs were these

6793026 · 09-26-2012, 08:05 PM

what you're doing are just tapping useless pussy. At the end of the day, sex gets boring, it's "exciting" cause it's a new person, but man does it get old fast. it's like jacking off to porn and after a while, jacking off is jut jacking off. It's a simple chore that you do to get off.

is there a solution? well yeha. It's call making love to someone. Yeah, it sounds gay, but it's no different than power dating on CL / POF / lavalife versus being in a great relationship; yeah it gets boring after a while, but you get much more out of it when it's good.

and PLEASE.... 6 girls in 2 months, whatever... when you are experienced like some of us on this board who are older, where we have over tapped over 100, you learn a few things. and yes, the girls you're tapping are inexperienced. Wait till you hop on the 40 yr old milfs, they'll teach you a few things you'll never forget.

Verdasco · 09-26-2012, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Sky_High

Would you please share which clubs were these

probably those UBC clubs which go clubbing

ree666 · 09-26-2012, 10:53 PM

gotta stop picking up ugly girls then.

or the first one you see that speaks a little bit of english.

Vale46Rossi · 09-26-2012, 11:06 PM

dink · 09-26-2012, 11:10 PM

You have to keep in mind the reason sex isn't boring with a SO is because you're familiar with each others needs and wants, ways to make it more enjoyable. Meaningless sex, fuck and go's and one night stands don't mean much.

bulkerer · 09-27-2012, 10:29 PM

low testosterone

Gridlock · 09-28-2012, 07:37 AM

I think you are all off base.

1. I don't think he's gay.
2. I really don't think testosterone is the problem if he's bagging 6 in 2 months.

I think the problem is, he's meeting the wrong type of girl, 'fucking and chucking' them and he's tired of it.

First, the wrong type of girl. I know there is a double standard surrounding sex, and the opposite sexes. For a guy, saying "I fucked 6 girls in the last 2 months" gets you comments like:

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Would you please share which clubs were these

Because its supposed to be goddamned heroic. But for a girl that sleeps with 6 different guys in 2 months, she's a what? Yeah. Exactly.

Here's the thing though...those double standards exist for a reason. I don't think women and men are supposed to be the same when it comes to sex. I think guys are supposed to be able to fuck more women, and women should put some thought into who they sleep with. I think those roles are what makes men and women the different sexes to begin with. It's not a positive/negative thing, its a 'just the way it is" thing. Sure...there are outliers to anything. You can have a woman that is making her conscious choices as well(thinking the sam type from sex in the city) I think the women in this case needs to also make the conscious choice of, "I'm not going to obtain love from this".

I went though a period of time where I was doing a similar thing that you are doing..meeting, screwing, getting bored and saying 'next'. And I felt the exact same way..."too easy"..."fuck you're kind of dumb" and "I really want to ask you to leave, but don't want to come across like an asshole". I'd meet them, talk enough to them to get what I wanted and then immediately bored of them. Why? Because if they put out on a first 'date' with me, dude, I wasn't the first, and I wasn't going to be the last. And I found that with that in my mind, my being another in a long line of her putting out hoping it turns into something to fill that empty void to be just as empty and meaningless as my fucking a random to put a notch on the bedpost. If all I've wanted from you, is what you've already given..then whats the point for round 2?

I often ask myself when I see, or hear people talking about the 100's of women they've slept with, "what are you trying to accomplish?" What about hitting 100 makes you a better person, than 99, or 9? I can make a case that there is a group of men that are proclaimed bachelors, in which case yes, you are going to rack up some numbers...you are also going to die alone. If that's the decision that a person makes, then go nuts and live your life, but make it a conscious decision.

So, in short, I think you've come to the same realization in regards to your activities, but haven't quite figured out how to meet the right type of girl, and what that means to your dating style.

6793026 · 09-28-2012, 07:44 AM

Gridlock - I like the post where you say "what are you trying to accomplish?" Yes, number is just a number and it doesn't mean nothing; Chris Rock did a bit where it's ok when guys tell other guys they hit X number of girls, but when you are trying to meet a girl and any number they tell you, you'll think she's a slut even when she only had 2 bfs.

I wish I could ask the same "what are you trying to accomplish" question to the girls that are being a bitch and dating guys for their money asking for LV bags and dating guys that are total douche bags or those who buys them tons of stuff..... but that's another thread.