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09-28-2014, 07:56 PM
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| [Confidential] how do i initiate first contact after scarring the ex girlfriend
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So GF and I broke up. She is currently working abroad for a few months and will return soon.
So during this time, I fucked it all up as I simply kept pushing and pushing her. yelling and arguing over what is right for us. I've reached out to the wrong people just to see how she is thinking
Its gotten to a point where we are not in speaking terms. shes scarred by the situation.
I want to apologize, but she wont listen. so now im scared to even send an email apologizing.
I do not want this to end where we are not even speaking. so...how do i initiate this contact?
with that said, my instincts tell me there is another person involved. could be a fling. not sure, but one simply doesn't throw away 3 years. Before that gets too serious, i need some advice on how to have her maybe miss me a bit and at least be on speaking terms
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09-28-2014, 08:24 PM
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send a hand written letter with your feels... hope for the best and continue on with life until you hear back.
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09-28-2014, 10:20 PM
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You want your ex to miss you after admitting you were being a creep and harassing her after the relationship ended?
Sounds like you haven't changed at all, and is in denial about reality.
First of all, it all dies down to why you broke up, and if you were ever good friends prior to dating.
Two, stop being a desperate ex, people are exes for a reason, rarely is it due to circumstances that doesn't involve feelings disappearing.
Three, keep it simple, just apologize, and move on like what tiger_handheld said, pushing will only make her go further away. If she responds and wants to still be friends then so be it. If not, get over it.
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09-28-2014, 10:24 PM
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dude, you fucked up.. you need to move on, shes already starting too. if you dont back off she could take legal action and then you'll be really fucked. just leave her alone.
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09-29-2014, 01:14 AM
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rofl OP sounds like me, was in a long distance relationship and started arguing stupid shit and broke up last month. We spoke to each other every day when this happened but remained "friends" (lol ya right, just awkward as fuck and basically having each others social media sites as friends but that was about it). I soon later found out she was with another dude after breaking up but I could give zero fucks
just move on and see if she still wants to be "friends" still. If not, do not bother talking to her. I think relationships like these are a waste of time because of zero chemistry.
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09-29-2014, 02:34 PM
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Whats the point?
It didn't work out.
Its over.
Why do you care if you are on speaking terms with her?
A guy and a girl can't be just friends. one person breaks sooner or later.
you still have feelings for her, admit it
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09-29-2014, 03:02 PM
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Originally Posted by El Bastardo but one simply doesn't throw away 3 years. | that's where you're wrong buddy.
yes they do. and yes you can.
i went through this when i was younger too.. looks like a lot of people go through this.
the best thing you can get out of this is the lesson... and you don't make the same mistakes with the next girl.
it's over dude. cut your losses. one does throw away 3 years. some people throw away much longer duration than that.
learn the lesson. don't control. don't reach out. don't demand. don't push people.
the tighter you grip, the more they slip away. it's too late now.
just don't do the same things next time.
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10-02-2014, 02:13 PM
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Relationship is like water, you cup your hand gently and let it do its thing and it will conform to the contours of your hand, most of the time.
If you clench your fist, you lose your water. Sometimes when you get nudged some of the water spills but when the time is right and it rains the water in your hand will slowly grow. You either work to keep your hand steady to maintain the pool or you lose your composure and let it all go.
You clenched your agitated your hand and into a fist, you lost the water.
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10-02-2014, 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted by PK-EK Whats the point?
It didn't work out.
Its over.
Why do you care if you are on speaking terms with her?
A guy and a girl can't be just friends. one person breaks sooner or later.
you still have feelings for her, admit it | I agree with all but the bold, that's completely false.
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10-02-2014, 08:58 PM
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^ what pk-ek was really saying a guy and girl cannot be "real friends" he's totally right. I assume you are friends with your ex?
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10-02-2014, 09:51 PM
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OP sounds like an ex of mine. Please just leave her alone. You're probably only tormenting her further by continuing to try to get in touch with her. Move on and let her heal from the "scarring". If she wants to talk to you again, she'll get in touch. If not, consider her silence your closure.
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10-02-2014, 10:19 PM
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How do you initiate contact? You don't...
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10-02-2014, 10:59 PM
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Originally Posted by El Bastardo The following is a post by an anonymous Revscene member. If the original poster would like to reply to this thread, please PM me
So GF and I broke up. She is currently working abroad for a few months and will return soon.
So during this time, I fucked it all up as I simply kept pushing and pushing her. yelling and arguing over what is right for us. I've reached out to the wrong people just to see how she is thinking
Its gotten to a point where we are not in speaking terms. shes scarred by the situation.
I want to apologize, but she wont listen. so now im scared to even send an email apologizing.
I do not want this to end where we are not even speaking. so...how do i initiate this contact?
with that said, my instincts tell me there is another person involved. could be a fling. not sure, but one simply doesn't throw away 3 years. Before that gets too serious, i need some advice on how to have her maybe miss me a bit and at least be on speaking terms | LOL you got a lot to learn son. When a girl saids she loves you or anything like that, it means she loves you that at that time not a second more. Girls can change their mind in a second. So 3 years is nothing.
You still want your ex back. I been in your shoes (although I didn't go as far as you are). I do message her from time to time but we both move on and have our own bf and gf now.
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Leave her alone, and let her move on with her life. Do the same.
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Originally Posted by Z3guy ^ what pk-ek was really saying a guy and girl cannot be "real friends" he's totally right. I assume you are friends with your ex? | I have many friends who re female and my girlfriend has many friends who are male, and we're both still friends with some of our exes.
Obviously everyone's different, and some people have a very hard time being friends with the opposite sex, but that's usually their own failing (ie they try to bone everyone they meet).
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Depends on what she left you for. If she left you because she got boned by her coworker like my friend's ex did, then it's spilled beer anyway.
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you'll never be 15 and in love
lying on the grass on a warm summer night, watching the stars, carelessly chatting
not worrying about rent, bills, student loans
only worry in life is how you're gonna cheat on that history test on monday
you'll never take a young, tight, hot-bodied girls virginity, pulling out to cum all over her back and have her look in your eyes and say "I love you"
you'll never have a girl around every day after school, pretend to be doing homework together, but instead just **** like rabbits
you're in your 20's now
gotta get a good job
gotta be a serious man now
all the good ones are taken
maybe a nice girl will eventually settle with you
they have already felt all those new exciting feelings before, and are usually jaded and bitter
you missed what it feels like to have not a care in the world other than making your girl happy
you have missed out on teenage love
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download john legend album to cry to
also, most cancer patients don't usually miss cancer. An abusive relationship is what it is, the fact that she is scared is testament to that. The fact that she was abroad for a long duration of time just adds to the fact that you are not the same people anymore. People change, seeing the world really puts things into perspective for some people
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Don't contact her.. at all.
You might be able to contact her.. after at least one year of absolutely no contact. And even at that point, you need to show that you have moved on with your life, and you get one shot.. maybe a 'hi', maybe..
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Originally Posted by dhillon09 download john legend album to cry to
also, most cancer patients don't usually miss cancer. An abusive relationship is what it is, the fact that she is scared is testament to that. The fact that she was abroad for a long duration of time just adds to the fact that you are not the same people anymore. People change, seeing the world really puts things into perspective for some people | Best advice.
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Originally Posted by dhillon09 People change, seeing the world really puts things into perspective for some people | You are so full of shit.
TOS'd still has Aspergers.
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my god you are clingy op..
srsly move on .. clearly shes trying to do the same and youre jsut being pushy as fuck.
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