dating/meeting in 2016

[6793026]

Originally Posted by tiger_handheld

Vancouver girls :

the whole issue comes down to the mentality of "I deserve the best! i'm not settling" - it's the damn prisoners dilemma.

I agree with you 1000000%. This one is mad truth I tell you.

Girl that's in their mind 30s:
-Successful career built up, making solid 70-90k.
-Drives a nice car,
-Has a few name brand pieces (from dresses, to shoes to purses),
-They've been to all find dining restaurants in Vancouver.
-Might have an apartment etc.

They are so used to the finer things in life, used to rejecting guys but realize "why should I settle for the bald guy" "uhhh, why isn't he good looking", "why isn't he like tom cruise" but they don't realize "yo cup cake, you're 36, your eggs are drying up and you're still nit picking every dude you date".

You're not going to be able to compete with someone's that 28 who is much prettier than you.

[gilly]

What an epic post by Ulic Qel-Droma

[yameen]

what is there to do in surrey after dinner? why are there no dessert places and why are there only indian restaurants. surrey you're giving me nothing to work with here!

[!e.lo_]

Originally Posted by yameen

what is there to do in surrey after dinner? why are there no dessert places and why are there only indian restaurants. surrey you're giving me nothing to work with here!

bubble world guildford.
soon opening some bubble waffle cafe next door.
pearl castle surrey central.

that generic shit lol

[PJ]

Vancouver's dating scene seriously sucks. This is agreed with by several of my friends who are avid travellers. Myself, I'm regularly back and forth between Vancouver and Toronto, and Toronto's is exponentially more active. Everyone's more social, more approachable, and generally just friendlier. I have more luck in Toronto in a day than I do in Vancouver in a week. Hell, I even do better on the island. Vancouver has a reputation for being snobby and exclusive, and unfortunately it lives up to it. Ironically, I personally don't think Vancouver's general population is the best looking anyway.

Not to sound glib or braggy, but I generally do alright with girls. I can go out tonight and get a number no problem. But even then, I've yet to meet someone here that I want to be in a relationship with. Everyone I've met has either been too slutty or too uptight. Whereas on the east coast, almost every time I'm there, I meet someone who I would wife in a heartbeat.

My theory is that because Vancouver is so small and everyone knows everyone, most girls want to date a "somebody" (business owner, local celebrity, someone with money, social status, etc). And once a girl is above a certain point in the looks department, they naturally get more attention. At that point, they try to keep "climbing the ladder" and seeing what the best they can get is.

I'm currently seeing someone, which is the first girl I haven't gotten turned off by in less than a week. Met her at the dog park. We'll see how it goes.

So if all else fails... Adopt a dog. Always a good conversation starter. At the very least, you'll provide a good home for a new friend who was living in a cage.

Happy hunting, gents.

[Gucci Mane]

Originally Posted by yameen

what is there to do in surrey after dinner? why are there no dessert places and why are there only indian restaurants. surrey you're giving me nothing to work with here!

drive to white rock for gellato and walk around at the beach. well, on a nicer day anyways.

[skiiipi]

How's night school for meeting people these days?
I remember a few years back when I took night classes at Kwantlen I've met lots of people that way.

[Galactic_Phantom]

Originally Posted by yameen

what is there to do in surrey after dinner? why are there no dessert places and why are there only indian restaurants. surrey you're giving me nothing to work with here!

do you have a car?

[stewie]

Been single for almost a year now.

I work with 99% men, and the females that are there that I talk to are the ones who are in their 50's. I've yet to try tinder, but I did end up signing up to plentyoffish in November.

So far, it's decent. But...it's also a major let down as every woman I've met so far flat out lies about themselves. They look great on paper, but meeting them is the complete opposite. Their photos are 5 years old with a thin body, but I end up meeting a chubby gal. I've been meeting at least 1 a week since I signed up, but each one is the same. Boring, can't contribute to a conversation, and makes me wonder how they could go from being awesome on paper, awesome at texting, meet up....and I might as well be having a conversation with myself. I've got a list of names in my phone contact list now under the names Ignore - Maria POF, Ignore - Jess POF, etc etc etc. Weeks will go by and I'll get a random message from someone, so at least this way I know who it is and not to reply.

It's almost impossible to find a decent looking girl who's not broke, has a car, a career, and isn't as needy as a puppy.

I wish I could get my friends to set me up with their wives/girlfriends friends...but they're all in long term relationships/married.

I'm hoping for the best this year!

[!e.lo_]

everyday it just sounds better and better to get a dog than try dating again...

[XplicitLuder]

Originally Posted by Ulic Qel-Droma

there's no such thing as homewrecking. NO SUCH THING. it takes two to tango. and if they respond and tango with you, the home was already fucking wrecked to begin with.

[yameen]

got a second date and have been talking to her on the phone throughout the week. driving to surrey isn't that bad if the girl is worth it lol. there's this event going on that i'm going to if anyone is interested: inFlux - Open Studio| City of Surrey

first date since ending my 4 year relationship so it's a big step back into the dating scene. i have to shake off the rust for the chase. it's like i'm a newb level 1 again.

[k20a]

Originally Posted by yameen

first date since ending my 4 year relationship so it's a big step back into the dating scene. i have to shake off the rust for the chase. it's like i'm a newb level 1 again.

Tell me about rusty lol, just got out of a 8.5 year relationship.

[mr_chin]

Originally Posted by stewie

Been single for almost a year now.

I work with 99% men, and the females that are there that I talk to are the ones who are in their 50's. I've yet to try tinder, but I did end up signing up to plentyoffish in November.

So far, it's decent. But...it's also a major let down as every woman I've met so far flat out lies about themselves. They look great on paper, but meeting them is the complete opposite. Their photos are 5 years old with a thin body, but I end up meeting a chubby gal. I've been meeting at least 1 a week since I signed up, but each one is the same. Boring, can't contribute to a conversation, and makes me wonder how they could go from being awesome on paper, awesome at texting, meet up....and I might as well be having a conversation with myself. I've got a list of names in my phone contact list now under the names Ignore - Maria POF, Ignore - Jess POF, etc etc etc. Weeks will go by and I'll get a random message from someone, so at least this way I know who it is and not to reply.

It's almost impossible to find a decent looking girl who's not broke, has a car, a career, and isn't as needy as a puppy.

I wish I could get my friends to set me up with their wives/girlfriends friends...but they're all in long term relationships/married.

I'm hoping for the best this year!

Yeah, POF has been a waste of time for me too. All the girls profile that says "ask me if you're interested", when I send a message, no replies. The ones that replies can't even carry a conversation.

This chubby chick messages me asking how my weekend is so far? I replied describing it so and ask, "yours?" She returns with "it's good". WTF?

Originally Posted by k20a

Tell me about rusty lol, just got out of a 8.5 year relationship.

This is the shit that fucking makes me don't want to be in a relationship. My buddy just got out of a 10 year. Started when he was 18 and missed his party life. Now he's going off partying, drugs, tattoos, etc.

On the bright side, at least they didn't get married yet before deciding to end it. But shit...

I could imagine after so long dating one person, you're accustomed to that style of intimacy that it will be so hard to adapt to a new one.

[k20a]

Originally Posted by mr_chin

Yeah, POF has been a waste of time for me too. All the girls profile that says "ask me if you're interested", when I send a message, no replies. The ones that replies can't even carry a conversation.

This chubby chick messages me asking how my weekend is so far? I replied describing it so and ask, "yours?" She returns with "it's good". WTF?



This is the shit that fucking makes me don't want to be in a relationship. My buddy just got out of a 10 year. Started when he was 18 and missed his party life. Now he's going off partying, drugs, tattoos, etc.

On the bright side, at least they didn't get married yet before deciding to end it. But shit...

I could imagine after so long dating one person, you're accustomed to that style of intimacy that it will be so hard to adapt to a new one.

I would say its shitty but not, I mean you come out of a relationship hoping to have learned something good or bad, and hopefully use it onto the next relationship to better it. It just does suck, as for me I'm almost done in my 20's on a one female. I guess sometimes you just got to admit if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I wasn't happy for awhile, so my shoulders feel lightened. But at the same time, its a big world out there. Hahaha

[6793026]

Wouldn't see it as a "oh shit, it's been X amount of year, I lost my game"; however I do feel for you if you are about to re-enter the new dating scene.

Dating up until say year 2001-ish, you meet a girl (anywhere) and you might get her number and you get to show her around and have a decent conversation because cell phones weren't killing your attention span.

Now, since CL, POF, OkCupid, Tinder, girls get UNLIMITED attention when they login to any website, the next good looking dude is just a swipe away (guys are just as guilty).

THAT is what I think really sucks. We are not competing with another guy she is dating, we simply can't even get a girl to respond. Let alone they having a great conversation.

[tiger_handheld]

Originally Posted by 6793026

Let alone they having a great conversation.

The thing is, with whatsapp, imessage, any form of on-screen communication has decimated our ability to carry on any sort of convo!

I was talking to someone yesterday and i could see it in her eyes she was processing what to say next and then there was a 5-6 second pause after I stopped talking and then her words come out... like wtf... and the words were "that's amazing.."... my next words were, "well it's time I head out, I'm having family dinner"

I wish Vancity buzz would run with this thread and interview some chicks for their perspective. It'd be a great V-day article... that's original for once!

[guurl]

being a girl and reading this thread...lol some i agree..some i would disagree.

us girls like it when a guy has it together. or has an IDEA of how he will get it together. girls always think ahead about their own future (most of the time)

a guy should at least have a car too.. if not then have a car to use sometimes at least lol but dont blow all of your money on your car.
i find that unattractive. broke because he spends all of his money on his car lol balance your spendings

guys who have a great sense of humor.. adventurous and spontaneous are a also plus

it's also attractive if a guy is really involved and considerate with his family. (to me atleast). it will reflect on him if he ever has a family of his own.

[rufCTR3]

This thread reeks of desperation.

[Tapioca]

At the end of the day, it's not really that complicated.

Put in a bit of effort into your appearance, ask good questions, and figure out where the women you want to meet are. If you want a career woman with intelligence, where is she going to be? Probably not at the bar. She may, however, be at social events catering to people who work in her industry or at social events for the industry she wants to work in.

A set of wheels is important to a certain extent, but most women don't care about what you've done to the engine, or the amount you've stanced the car. Women care about how well you take care of the car. If your car smells and hasn't been cleaned in months, then that's likely a reflection of how you are in other areas of your life. I drove an old Acura Integra for 10 years, but most women I dated didn't care that it didn't run 13 second quarter miles. I always kept it clean and I paid particular attention its the cleanliness before I took someone new out on a date. Women loved my old BMW E30 because it was clear when they saw it and sat in it that I took care of it.

Paying attention to the details helps. Make sure your clothing fits you. When you communicate, whether in person or by text, use full sentences and proper grammar. If you live on your own, have some food in the fridge and a couple of bottles of decent table wine in your cabinet. Make sure your place doesn't smell bad. Make your bed and clean your sheets. Women don't want to spend time with schlubs or slobs. Considering the shortened attention spans these days, details matter more than ever.

Again, it's not that complicated.

[BeeBeeAhn]

I met my bf on tinder. took a good 6+ months of talking before we started dating but hey we got there. Been together almost a year.

He told me he was afraid i'd be ugly in person (LOL) , but luckily we have mutual friends that can vouch for me that no, i am not a fuckin ugly hag in person. I keep hearing horror stories about guys being catfished, but it's the same for us girls. You see a guy post a pic of him in a group, and 99% of the time he's gonna be the fat ugly one on the side. The hot dude in the middle? Taken. Or possibly gay and taken.

People only post flattering shit about themselves and hide the ugly shit, and they do that on dates too. Make themselves sound better than they really are, and that's just stupid cuz the truth will come out eventually.

You're not gonna find the right person by faking shit or trying to impress. I pretty much gave up on dating and used tinder to troll when i met my bf. Turns out we have the same fucked up sense of humour and the same hatred for people in general.

I stopped caring and decided i'm fine with dying alone one day and then oh look...i found a guy. Looking back, relationships failed pretty hard when I tried to hard to make it perfect and have ridiculous expectations. This relationship i'm in isn't perfect, but we work at it. We have days where we're perfectly happy, and we have days where we wonder how I haven't stabbed him yet. People these days have too many expectations for what their SO should be like and that causes a LOT of disappointment.

Girls want a guy that can treat her like a princess and all i can think is "LOL no. why should anyone treat you like one." Don't get me wrong. I like expensive things too, but i also understand how hard it is to make money, so i don't expect my guy to buy me shit. If i want something, I buy it myself.

I kind of blame social media for this kind of mentality people have these days. They post pics and show off the shit they get, but they don't post pics of the crappy days. It makes people have really unattainable expectations for dating.

Also, not all girls give a rats ass how a guy dresses. my bf looks like a chinese redneck/lumberjack and I am the polar opposite. I don't care how he looks. He does clean up pretty well though. Not all girls like talking on the phone over texting either. That's something you gotta find out yourself. My bf was happy to find that i HATE talking on the phone. I'm a multitasker; i hate sitting and doing one thing at a time, and phonecalls force me to stop whatever else i'm doing. My bf and i have talked on the phone for more than 3 minutes twice over the past year, and I'm happy with that.

Just gotta take your time and figure out what you need, and be content with yourself being single before you can find that right person.

also, girls get a LOT of msgs on dating sites. It's hard to have a good conversation with anyone when the msgs just flood in. It's hard to determine who is worth talking to and who should be blocked. I probably offended a lot of guys actually. Oopsies.

tl;dr: people are stupid, dating is stupid, get 10 cats.

[stewie]

Originally Posted by mr_chin

Yeah, POF has been a waste of time for me too. All the girls profile that says "ask me if you're interested", when I send a message, no replies. The ones that replies can't even carry a conversation.

This chubby chick messages me asking how my weekend is so far? I replied describing it so and ask, "yours?" She returns with "it's good". WTF?

Gotta be specific man. I clearly state that any conversation initiated by a woman will not be replied to if all they say is some generic variation of hey, hi, hows it going, how was your weekend, whats up, etc. Put some thought into it or don't message me at all. I actually rarely send out initial messages, but my profile is quite descriptive and long, and most messages start off the same by saying that reading it was a breath of fresh air after going through 100 other guys profiles saying "will fill out later" or "I don't know what to write, just message me". Works great on my end, but generally after a few messages I give up. They're either horrible conversationalists or they're just boring as fuck and meeting them would probably make me want to punch them haha.

It's not that POF doesn't work, its just not panning out for me so well at the moment haha. I'll give it time though, patience is virtue hah

[PJ]

Originally Posted by BeeBeeAhn

also, girls get a LOT of msgs on dating sites.

This.

My old roommate (for a frame of reference, I'd consider her a solid 7, maybe 7.5 or 8 when she's dolled up) closed all her online dating profiles because it was pointless. Every swipe right on Tinder was a match. On okCupid she got literally 500+ messages overnight. And on POF she got 1200+ (!!!!) in a couple days.

Online date as you wish, gentlemen. But know that these are the numbers you're working with when you're dealing with the above-average in the looks department.

Hope you can excuse the brash comments, ladies.

[guurl]

Online dating is so tricky. You just never know how the person will turn out to be lol

I would rather meet somebody in person first and be friends with them then see where it goes from there.

I've tried tinder. some guys are literally on there just for the poon while i was hoping to make some long lasting friendships with potential lol

[Gucci Mane]

I had a lot of luck with hi5 back in like 07/08. Met some really cool girls and some of the friendships actually stuck for quite a while but then I turned into a useless stoner hermit and pretty much flushed all my friendships down the tube. Oh well. I've tried everything else, tinder etc and it just isn't the same as it used to be. Best way now to meet girls is through school or other friends. Hell, if you're in that settled down frame of mind and want marriage, talk to your parents. They spread the word and talk to other family members or friends who know of someone that may work out. Some of my friends/family members have met their SO's that way and couldn't be happier. Just don't be like my one cousin who hooked up with every girl he was introduced too and then at weddings etc would be dodging the girls he hooked up with. Lol