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05-05-2017, 07:34 AM
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#51 | | I *heart* Revscene.net very Muchie
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Originally Posted by quasi  The daycare isn't the problem it's the parents. My kid was in daycare from 1 to 10, he's a great kid well mannered well adjusted and overall a good kid. If your kid is going to be a D-Bag it's because of you not because of his or her daycare. You want to see some awkward not well adjusted kids look no further then the kids who are home schooled, my son has played sports with a few different ones over the years and those kids are super introverted and weird as fuck future serial killers of the world. | I'm talking about the parents that are always busy and not teaching the kids, instead they are relying on full time nannies or other alternatives such as full day day cares or throwing them to the grand parents.
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05-05-2017, 07:37 AM
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#52 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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I know, and there is nothing wrong with not doing daycare if you're able all I'm saying is socialization and interaction with other kids at least at some point isn't a bad thing. There are extremes on both ends of the spectrum for sure.
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05-05-2017, 08:24 AM
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#53 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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it's pretty intense, you have to REALLY want to have kids and be super invested in that process, otherwise it's just painful to sit there on one side of a window watching single or non-child rearing friends traveling wherever at a whim and taking whatever opportunities in life come their way.
| Maybe this is more applicable to younger parents who jump in the game too early.
At 35 with a 1 week old, I feel like I've taken many the opportunities I've needed to become successful, as has my wife for her career (Having a partner who's willing to wait is helpful, I know there are many women can't control their clocks).
I've already done a buttload of travelling in my life, now I just want to focus on home.
I never had a huge urge to have kids. Seeing the family and friends have their babies never really did anything for me, I didn't really care to hold them or anything.
It wasn't until one night I was at my cousin's place working on his car his 3 year old boy was in the shop, super inquisitive, wanting to help daddy, holding the wrenches wanting to be right in the engine bay, that it tugged at my strings and I knew I wanted a little buddy I could teach everything to for myself.
The day you see your little human be born, It changes you. I don't regret it for one second.
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05-08-2017, 04:38 AM
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Originally Posted by Great68 The day you see your little human be born, It changes you. I don't regret it for one second. | I almost cried the moment my son came out. I was in the delivery room holding my wife's hand. I think every man should be in there experiencing it, really changes you.
I'm in the same boat as you, traveled, opportunities, etc etc. but it was time to have a kid. Now the hard part is awaiting us to raise our kid properly, and I feel it's as challenging as ever. Society now is so much different then when we were kids growing up. Not only do we need to worry about making enough money to put food on the table like our parents did with us, but also balancing environmental and cultural differences to teach our kids so they don't grow up weird as fuck.
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05-08-2017, 11:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Hondaracer I think the people going on about not knowing the joys of having children are just as ignorant as people who say they won't have children for the joys of the freedom and flexibility.
Personal choice, but to say someone with a kid is just instantly happier and experiences more joy in their life is absolute bullshit imo. The majority of people I know who have kids and struggle financially are overall miserable people. | oh I got the joy first handed when my sister and sister in law for for a week vacation when parents and I get to take care of my niece. The joy when she smiles at you, gives you a hug. Even just simple things watching you crawl towards you really puts a smile on you. Then there is the devil part dealing with crying at night, feeding her, making sure she takes her naps on time and crying non stop coz she miss her mom. Not to mention you have to watch her and be there when she is awake. Is not an easy task.
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05-08-2017, 11:43 AM
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#56 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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Originally Posted by Great68 The day you see your little human be born, It changes you. I don't regret it for one second. | This pretty much answers everything about raising children. All those annoying things like crying, diaper changes, feeding etc was only annoying when it's someone else's baby. For the most part, I enjoyed most of the work when it came to my own kids. But I would never do it for someone else's.  | |
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