[68style]

damn gooners till the day we die, thought if I date enough pretty girls, I'll be immune

Bruh it just gets worse. The older you get the more women you start going hmmmmm about, your level of acceptance expands and at some point anything is goon material I imagine.

[Badhobz]

id fuck a tree stump if it looked like a blonde's asshole.

https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRZJNeRZGQn1UMcvM14IK-O8aj4DH7BLvc5xw&s

[Gerbs]

do you guys think it's because you guys didn't get enough gooning when you're younger?

or would boning 50+ girls not change a thing

[Badhobz]

i fucked A LOTTTTTT okay. LIKE A SHIT TON... i literally lived inside my ex's ass.

[68style]

do you guys think it's because you guys didn't get enough gooning when you're younger?

or would boning 50+ girls not change a thing

Snowball effect! If you're just in it for boning, the more you bone the more you want to bone variety is the spice of life and the more divergent you get too

At some point if you're not a super rich dude tho you realize a certain segment of the population isn't interested in boning yo ass anymore unless you pay for it so you kind of settle in OR you djstyles it up and take your show on the road to Toys'R'Us (SE Asia) lolol

[Traum]

i fucked A LOTTTTTT okay. LIKE A SHIT TON... i literally lived inside my ex's ass.

Badhobz, are you sure you wrote that out in the correct order? As in, did you really mean:

i shited A LOTTTTTT okay? LIKE A FUCK TON... i literally lived inside my ex's ass (bcos I am so full of shit)

WutFace :spamarama:

[EvoFire]

do you guys think it's because you guys didn't get enough gooning when you're younger?

or would boning 50+ girls not change a thing

I wasn't interested. I had my action outside of relationships. It satisfies a physical need at the moment but it doesn't change anything long term. Needed a relationship to be healthy imo

[MarkyMark]

i fucked A LOTTTTTT okay. LIKE A SHIT TON... i literally lived inside my ex's ass.

Nowadays, barely once or twice every few months. meh...

Aren't you only like around 40? Fuck that's no way to live man

[bcrdukes]

Aren't you only like around 40? Fuck that's no way to live man

Just to be sure, are you referring to his experience with his ex? Or his current situation? Or both?

What do you suggest as a remedy? Don't forget, he's a lesbian now, so please mind his (her?) preferences. :badpokerface:

[MarkyMark]

Just to be sure, are you referring to his experience with his ex? Or his current situation? Or both?

What do you suggest as a remedy? Don't forget, he's a lesbian now, so please mind his (her?) preferences. :badpokerface:

His current situation. Once or twice every few months will drive any dude with functioning nuts to snap or cheat eventually.

[Badhobz]

sex ain’t that that important to me anymore. Would be fun but also the headache associated for a few fleeting moments of pleasure doesn’t seem worth turning my life upside down

[MarkyMark]

It’s been like this for years already. Haven’t gone off the reservation yet. I just jerk off a lot and dream of my hooker and cocaine yacht retirement party.

Whatever, sex ain’t that that important to me anymore. Would be fun but also the headache associated for a few fleeting moments of pleasure doesn’t seem worth turning my life upside down

Just so we're clear, getting your wife to have sex with you more often isn't worth the trouble, even though that's what you would prefer?

[yray]

there's more to life than sex

like buying a subaru :nyan:

after a while, all vaginas are the same :troll:

[Hehe]

there's more to life than sex

like buying a subaru :nyan:

after a while, all vaginas are the same :troll:

You become one (with) vagina? :pokerface:

[Badhobz]

Just so we're clear, getting your wife to have sex with you more often isn't worth the trouble, even though that's what you would prefer?

No, I mean pursuing other avenues like hookers, cheating, massage parlours, soap lands, rub and tugs, and myriad of other fun and exciting things.

Not worth the hassle and potential life altering consequences.

I don’t know, as a middle age chinaman, it’s pretty normal to rarely get some. I’ve asked around and most Chongs are in the same boat as me. We all turned into these sexless heaps of geriatric man meat. Why do you think we have so many hobbies ? Also it’s a daily grind to not cheat on her ass as opportunities are ever present when you have time and money to pursue hobbies. Other cunts somehow detects this and comes out of the woodwork to fuck you up.

[68style]

Did you text your Porsche girl to tell her you bought a Su ba lo instead of a GT3 from her? That's gonna make her both angrier and wetter than she's ever been in her life.

[bcrdukes]

Breaking News: Flash Floods in Ottawa :lol

[supafamous]

It’s been like this for years already. Haven’t gone off the reservation yet. I just jerk off a lot and dream of my hooker and cocaine yacht retirement party.

Whatever, sex ain’t that that important to me anymore. Would be fun but also the headache associated for a few fleeting moments of pleasure doesn’t seem worth turning my life upside down

Not the Modern Dating thread we asked for but the Modern Dating thread we deserve.

[Badhobz]

Did you text your Porsche girl to tell her you bought a Su ba lo instead of a GT3 from her? That's gonna make her both angrier and wetter than she's ever been in her life.

shes not impressed to say the least... said i could have gotten a macan EV ANNNNDDDD that my wife would have been a helluva lot happier if i had a MACAN EV instead of some lousy lesmobile

[bcrdukes]

You still can get one. Happy wife = Happy life? (Highly subjective) :D

[CivicBlues]

r/deadbedrooms

Honestly I wouldn't mind if we pivot towards this conversation - this will be more relevant to the majority of us than whatever shit these 20-something gen-z are talking about

[Badhobz]

maybe its more a cultural thing... all my white buddys are still porking their old ladies like 1-3 times a week.

i dont know about brown brothers... i figure you dont need that much exfoliation....

how the hell did they make over 1 billion chongs if we all acted like this? jesus.... the way this is going, we are going to have a HUGE negative population within the next 30-50 years.

[noclue]

I thought the norm in Asia is to have a mistress or two for stress relief, and if you create an illegitimate kid you send them both out to Vancouver or California lol

[MarkyMark]

It takes work and conversations to keep the spark alive after years of marriage. After our kid I was patient for many months as it's a fucking disaster with a newborn so that was an obvious write off. After 6+ months and the kid was sleeping through the night I had to have a serious discussion about getting the bedroom back in order because I refuse to live my life in some sexless marriage.

It takes both sides, women are different than men who just always want to fuck, they need to feel a connection, you gotta keep up with the dates and nice gestures or you're just a roommate to them and that's the last person they want to fuck.

If you're in a sexless marriage and hate it you have to bring it up and find out what it's gonna take to get it back, or you'll just end up resenting them as you jerk off to the thought of the new chick at work.

[Traum]

Back in the good ol' hustle bustle days in Dongguan when Chinamerica was still the thing, Chinese peeps (and their 'Murican business partners) were banging it up like there is no tomorrow. If Chinese men were all so eager to practice the Dongguan 18 styles, you can't convince me that middle aged Chinese men not banging is a cultural thing LOL~

Now... I just need to find a partner to practice those 18 styles with... :lawl:

[68style]

18 styles? I thought there were 68 :cool:

[CivicBlues]

Yeah you gotta keep up the "romance". It's pay to play. White guys get it, they take their wives out with an excuse to get dressed up. They look nice, feel nice of course they're more likely to want to get down after dinner.

Traditional Asian families -> "restaurant too expensive, parking too expensive, babysitter too expensive. Why you no wanna fuck?"

[GS8]

5 weeks ago, my girlfriend was being annoying all day (random emotions). Testing my patience bigger than normal.

I went to get groceries in the early evening. After getting what I needed (carrying about 10lbs in each hand), I slipped on some black ice and landed hard on my shoulder. Like REALLY hard.

The pain was unbearable as I stumbled back to the car,, while still holding the groceries with my now injured shoulder.

When I got home, wincing, my girlfriend totally changed and went into 'first responder' mode and took care of me, not just that evening but for the entire 1st week I could not use my left arm at all.

Took a full 3 weeks to recover. No broken bones, just muscle bruising.

But the whole scenario reminded me that in order to see the selflessness in your partner, you'll have to deal with the selfishness too. We're just all human. Just observe which side of the scale is tipping more.

[donk.]

Yeah you gotta keep up the "romance". It's pay to play. White guys get it, they take their wives out with an excuse to get dressed up. They look nice, feel nice of course they're more likely to want to get down after dinner.



We dont make out of the house, need to dress up twice.......

She looks at me like im a piece of meat

unzip

[68style]

^ Is that why you're not in New Zealand?

[donk.]

Im not in new zealand because ive rolled over

[spoon.ek9]

Perhaps related but back in the day, before television and all that, I was told our grandparents had nothing better to do at night so might as well do the nasty. That's how they all ended up with 10+ kids :lol

Also with free child labour in mind, naturally.

[Mikoyan]

Perhaps related but back in the day, before television and all that, I was told our grandparents had nothing better to do at night so might as well do the nasty. That's how they all ended up with 10+ kids :lol

Also with free child labour in mind, naturally.

Still happens, there's usually a mini baby boom after widespread power outages, like the Ice Storm a few years back.

Cuddled up to stay warm, no power, staying of your phone to save the battery...

[spoon.ek9]

To a much lesser degree perhaps lol. ain't nobody having that many kids anymore though... it's super rare. I think one of the doctors I know has perhaps 8 kids but that's because religious beliefs prevent him from using contraceptives. Also, obviously he has the funds to support so many people...

[BIC_BAWS]

COVID Lockdown babies

[donk.]

More like domestic abuse make up sex babies

[Gerbs]

So we had a single boyz night to recap the dating market last week, I asked them if they noticed we don't really get a thank you anymore. Especially for booking activities or anything that's non dinner.


This girl I met in person just hit me with

- thanks for booking tickets, show was really unique
- thanks for driving even for a 2 min drive!?!?!
- thanks for dinner and making resos, it was yummy
- thanks for snacks

the bar is low that I'm shocked this is real :awwyeah:

https://live.staticflickr.com/65535/55129173194_6b0b42aa87_b.jpg (https://flic.kr/p/2rZzqw7)

[Badhobz]

the fuck!?

ITS A TRAP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

run gerbs, this bitch is bullshit.

[spoon.ek9]

It's really nice when they show appreciation and as you said, it's rare these days. I'd consider it a green flag that she said thank you and also for showing eagerness to try something you like too.

On the opposite spectrum, all you single guys out there need to avoid any girl who exhibits even the slightest hint of:

"I don't need no man"
"Men ain't shit"
"What do men even do?"

[bcrdukes]

This is sus AF.

[Badhobz]

spy ballon is the best

[RabidRat]

So we had a single boyz night to recap the dating market last week, I asked them if they noticed we don't really get a thank you anymore. Especially for booking activities or anything that's non dinner.


This girl I met in person just hit me with

- thanks for booking tickets, show was really unique
- thanks for driving even for a 2 min drive!?!?!
- thanks for dinner and making resos, it was yummy
- thanks for snacks

the bar is low that I'm shocked this is real :awwyeah:

https://live.staticflickr.com/65535/55129173194_6b0b42aa87_b.jpg (https://flic.kr/p/2rZzqw7)

I guess they hang out with the older crowd then :).

This is standard behavior in my age group (regardless of whether dating or not), including thanks for the 2-minute drop-offs lol.

[Badhobz]

you lying sack of shit. when the hell did your wife ever say thank you for anything!??!!? hUH!?!?!? thank you my ass...... dai say you more likey.

[bcrdukes]

I think RabidRat got hacked lol

[Gerbs]

On the opposite spectrum, all you single guys out there need to avoid any girl who exhibits even the slightest hint of:

"I don't need no man"
"Men ain't shit"
"What do men even do?"

men make money to date higher quality girls.
girls make money so they never need a man.


you gotta date girls that like men and respect their fathers

[Gerbs]

On the other hand, we were discussing if how they say a thank you mattered.

of the ones that do say thank you, they hit you with the quietest thank you, without looking at you, as they're getting up or leaving. Maybe it's awkward for them idk.

super uncommon to get anything other than a quiet thank you outside of dinner

[CivicBlues]

The fuck is going on here? We got a bunch of JD Vances in here with the "did you even say Thank You?" GTFOWTS

The only "thank you" that matters is the one that involves tying up their hair and kneeling

[spoon.ek9]

It's not so much in the tone you're thinking of. Most of us aren't demanding outright thank yous, it's more about seeing any sign of gratitude for our efforts at all. The amount of entitlement from some girls these days is astounding so something as simple as a thank you goes a long way into building a positive view of a girl you're getting to know.

And to your point, yes there's more than one way for girls to say thank you :lol

There are a lot of them out there who think "yeah, so what?" is the normal attitude to towards the effort guys put into dates and whatnot. So you've got entitlement, men-hating attitudes and zero gratitude. Such a winning combo and some wonder why no guy will stick around for long (or show up at all).

I even saw a clip someone took of a washroom conversation where one girl is telling her friend "plenty of guys are nice, choose someone who's rich instead". This is exactly the type of attitude that makes single guys no longer want to try. Just get rich, be an asshole, get what you want from them and then next. That's the dating world for a lot of people now and it's sad. Anyone who's looking for legit LTR with family plans is going to have a tough time of it in most cases.

[Gerbs]

Just get rich, be an asshole, get what you want from them and then next. That's the dating world for a lot of people now and it's sad. Anyone who's looking for legit LTR with family plans is going to have a tough time of it in most cases.

that's not fulfilling though unless you can play multi-city.

cities too small, you'll know everyone in your community pretty quickly

[spoon.ek9]

I'd say that depends what you're looking for. Plenty of good looking rich dudes with charisma who dgaf about having a family or even a serious relationship. Another notch in the belt. These are the guys who ruin it for genuine guys but they're also the guys girls aim for.

[RabidRat]

you lying sack of shit. when the hell did your ching chong wife ever say thank you for anything!??!!? hUH!?!?!? thank you my ass...... dai say you more likey.

Fine, I meant everybody except for my wife!! I'm miserable why do you make me say it. :crybaby:

[bcrdukes]

thank you for the good laughs :D

And i'm not your wife!

[Badhobz]

Fine, I meant everybody except for my wife!! I'm miserable why do you make me say it. :crybaby:

well.... THAAAAANNNNKKKKKK YOUUUUUUUUUUUU

:pokerface:

[RabidRat]

:lol

[Gerbs]

I'd say that depends what you're looking for. Plenty of good looking rich dudes with charisma who dgaf about having a family or even a serious relationship. Another notch in the belt. These are the guys who ruin it for genuine guys but they're also the guys girls aim for.

If I didn't want a family, I'd join that party.

I realized doing that is really bad for the single dating pool, you're taking emotional availability away from 2-4 attractive girls, leaving 2-4 single doods single

[spoon.ek9]

Which means you have a conscience. Many do not!

[bcrdukes]

Having a conscience gets you nowhere! :mad:

[spoon.ek9]

"Good guys finish last" is a saying that holds more truth to it than it should

[GLOW]

"Good guys finish last" is a saying that holds more truth to it than it should

better to finish first :ifyouknow::badpokerface:Kreygasm :troll::ilied:


i'll show myself out now...:inout:

[Gerbs]

most never start or finish

[Badhobz]

That’s only true for you kids nowadays. We used to take every shot we can get. Didn’t matter.

[Gerbs]

That’s only true for you kids nowadays. We used to take every shot we can get. Didn’t matter.

bro, NOBODY takes a shot these days, we're all pussies.




this is for jobs, hobbies, doing anything, not just shooting your shot with women

world's never been easier for the taking

[Badhobz]

sigh... this isnt the world i grew up in.

I remember back in langara, this 5-foot-3 dude, ugly as fuck, broke as shit, like imagine the most fugly Guangdong looking motherfucker, and times that by 10x now picture that with a 1994 nissan stanza thats half rusted out.

He used to go up to all these hot bitches in class and ask them out. He got rejected 99.5 percent of the time, but that 0.5%.... then a few months go by and we see this motherfucker walking around with this smoking hot nammer chick.

We found out afterwards he got her preggers and everyone, even the god damn professors gave him props. He dropped out of school to raise their kid since he was a complete dumbass, but to this day i wonder how that dude is.

The sheer fucking hubris of that little midget...

you toys got no rizz... let the old dogs show youzz how its done.

[CivicBlues]

The name of that dude?

...Hyde

[supafamous]

https://www.kcl.ac.uk/news/almost-a-third-of-gen-z-men-agree-a-wife-should-obey-her-husband

Almost a third of Gen Z men agree a wife should obey her husband

31% of Gen Z men agree that a wife should always obey her husband and one third (33%) say a husband should have the final word on important decisions, according to a new global study of 23,000 people.

Gen Z men (born between 1997 and 2012) were twice as likely as Baby Boomer men (born between 1946 and 1964) to have traditional views on decision-making within a marriage, with just 13% and 17% of Baby Boomer men agreeing with those statements respectively.

By contrast, far fewer Gen Z women agreed that a wife should always obey her husband (18%) and an even smaller share of Baby Boomer women (6%) held that view.


https://www.kcl.ac.uk/newimages/younger-men-think-a-wife-should-obey-her-husband.xa14e6167.png?crop=1692,1311,260,95&f=webp

This seems like madness to me but aligns with the rise of incels and toxic masculinity.

[spoon.ek9]

better to finish first :ifyouknow::badpokerface:Kreygasm :troll::ilied:


i'll show myself out now...:inout:

you finish first in chat every damn day my friend

[Gerbs]

you toys got no rizz... let the old dogs show youzz how its done.

show us, y'all only talk about mid 40s gym milfs and goon over massage parlours

[donk.]

bro, NOBODY takes a shot these days, we're all pussies.




this is for jobs, hobbies, doing anything, not just shooting your shot with women

world's never been easier for the taking

Go buy that R8

Coward

[donk.]

show us, y'all only talk about mid 40s gym milfs and goon over massage parlours

He cant, he is a lesbian now, havent you heard what car he drives?

[CivicBlues]

Lesbos pull massive poon tho

[GLOW]

you finish first in chat every damn day my friend

iykyk :whistle::nyan:

Lesbos pull massive poon tho

thought that read lambos at first & had to do a double take :lol

[BIC_BAWS]

This seems like madness to me but aligns with the rise of incels and toxic masculinity.

There's also a shift where women are wanting more traditional men, which is ironic because previously the masses were preaching for their individualism and saying how "all men are shit" for approaching them etc etc, but now they're like we want traditional men who don't talk about their feelings "i don't want to be dating another women" and hit on us on the streets.

My point is, if they want more traditional men.. then traditionally, wives should listen to their husbands.

[CivicBlues]

I dunno man that survey supa posted is kinda sus, it surveys respondents from places like India, Indonesia, Turkey. How many boomers from those countries are going to respond to a survey like that? Whereas I bet most of the boomer responses are from Western countries. It's going to be skewed towards younger respondents from conservative countries. And liberal older responses from First World countries. Again without looking at the methodology I'm going to have to take these results with a grain of salt.

[supafamous]

I dunno man that survey supa posted is kinda sus, it surveys respondents from places like India, Indonesia, Turkey. How many boomers from those countries are going to respond to a survey like that? Whereas I bet most of the boomer responses are from Western countries. It's going to be skewed towards younger respondents from conservative countries. And liberal older responses from First World countries. Again without looking at the methodology I'm going to have to take these results with a grain of salt.

https://www.kcl.ac.uk/assets/news/iwd-2026-global-charts-final.pdf
Page 97:

Methodology
These are the results of a 29-country survey conducted by
Ipsos on its Global Advisor online platform and, in India, on
its IndiaBus platform, between Wednesday, December 24,
2025 and Friday, January 9, 2026. For this survey, Ipsos
interviewed a total of 23,268 adults aged 18 years and older
in India, 18-74 in Canada, Republic of Ireland, Malaysia,
South Africa, Türkiye, and the United States, 20-74 in
Thailand, 21-74 in Indonesia and Singapore, and 16-74 in all
other countries.

The sample consists of approximately 2,000 individuals in
Japan, 1,000 individuals each in Australia, Belgium, Brazil,
Canada, France, Germany, Great Britain, Italy, Mexico,
Spain, and the U.S., and 500 individuals each in Argentina,
Chile, Colombia, Hungary, Indonesia, Ireland, Malaysia, the
Netherlands, Peru, Poland, Singapore, South Africa, South
Korea, Sweden, Thailand, and Türkiye. The sample in India
consists of approximately 2,200 individuals, of whom
approximately 1,800 were interviewed face-to-face and
400 were interviewed online.

Samples in Argentina, Australia, Belgium, Canada, France,
Germany, Great Britain, Hungary, Italy, Japan, the
Netherlands, Poland, South Korea, Spain, Sweden, and the
U.S. can be considered representative of their general
adult populations under the age of 75. Samples in Brazil,
Chile, Colombia, Indonesia, Ireland, Malaysia, Mexico, Peru,
Singapore, Saudi Arabia, South Africa, Thailand, and
Türkiye are more urban, more educated, and/or more
affluent than the general population. The survey results for
these countries should be viewed as reflecting the views of
the more “connected” segment of their population.
India’s sample represents a large subset of its urban
population — social economic classes A, B and C in metros
and tier 1-3 town classes across all four zones.

The data is weighted so that the composition of each
country’s sample best reflects the demographic profile of
the adult population according to the most recent census
data. “The Global Country Average” reflects the average
result for all the countries and markets in which the survey
was conducted. It has not been adjusted to the population
size of each country or market and is not intended to
suggest a total result.

When percentages do not sum up to 100 or the ‘difference’
appears to be +/-1 percentage point more/less than the
actual result, this may be due to rounding, multiple
responses, or the exclusion of “don't know” or not stated
responses.

The precision of Ipsos online polls is calculated using a
credibility interval with a poll where N=1,000 being
accurate to +/- 3.5 percentage points and of where N=500
being accurate to +/- 5.0 percentage points. For more
information on Ipsos' use of credibility intervals, please
visit the Ipsos website.

I read through some of the other questions and mostly it's not surprising - in some cases they show the per country breakdown where others they show the total average.

[spoon.ek9]

This popped up on my feed. It's from 5 years ago but still valid.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A-YcBYUfgtc

Meanwhile, ask around and see what girls nowadays think "dad bod" means :lol

[BIC_BAWS]

https://www.reddit.com/r/vancouverdating/s/uDAfMgRV60

ISO: Traditional man

[donk.]

Did you smash?

[68style]

That's 100% a dude collecting info hahaha lost me at the "SEX IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME" no legitimate bitch says that, scam!

[whitev70r]

Happy International Women's Day !!

They deserve all the entitlement they can get ... :lol

[Infiniti]

Happy International Women's Day !!

They deserve all the entitlement they can get ... :lol

To mark the occasion, get them the gift they deserve

https://www.billboard.com/wp-content/uploads/media/dick-in-a-box-justin-timberlake-andy-samberg-billboard-650.jpg

[teggy604]

https://www.reddit.com/r/vancouverdating/s/uDAfMgRV60

ISO: Traditional man

I rather take a Japanese farm girl. Its rooted in them from birth.


A white girl will probably end up divorcing you.

[Traum]

I rather take a Japanese farm girl. Its rooted in them from birth.

I would too, and we all know why lol~ :ifyouknow:

[unit]

wtf is a japanese farm girl

[bcrdukes]

That's oddly specific and yes, I also want to know what a Japanese farm girl is. :lol

[GLOW]

would it be sfw to google?

[unit]

i tried and all i saw was a bunch of literal tea farmers

[Traum]

would it be sfw to google?
If you look hard enough, I'm sure you'd be able to come up with a JAV number for it EleGiggle

Please share that in the forum if you do

[GLOW]

we used to have a thread for that LUL EleGiggle :ifyouknow: :badpokerface: :ilied:

[teggy604]

That's oddly specific and yes, I also want to know what a Japanese farm girl is. :lol


Its the ones that live in rural areas of Japan. More traditional type. Not the ones in big cities like Tokyo.

[unit]

so you mean the ones with the massive muffs

[CivicBlues]

You guys are gooning (am I using this word right) over these farmers huh? Guaranteed the median age of a Japanese Agricultural worker is over 50.
https://www.economist.com/sites/default/files/images/print-edition/20130413_ASP001_0.jpg

[bcrdukes]

Travel Pix Collection :suspicious:

[GS8]

Ah yes, the fair smooth young looking skin of a Japanese girl

Broken up by the daddy-long-legs nest between her legs

[unit]

You guys are gooning (am I using this word right) over these farmers huh? Guaranteed the median age of a Japanese Agricultural worker is over 50.
https://www.economist.com/sites/default/files/images/print-edition/20130413_ASP001_0.jpg

to be fair that lady is probably like 80

[Gerbs]

here's an interesting new topic

how do you know a girl is putting in effort vs showing up

[donk.]

Does she:
Meet you across her condo, or spend 30 minutes meeting you somewhere?
Does she initiate the date / meat, or is it you every time?
Do she ever surprise you with a fun activity?
She pays for the dinner :derp:

[Gerbs]

Does she:
Meet you across her condo, or spend 30 minutes meeting you somewhere?
Does she initiate the date / meat, or is it you every time?
Do she ever surprise you with a fun activity?
She pays for the dinner :derp:

no :lawl:

[Badhobz]

here's an interesting new topic

how do you know a girl is putting in effort vs showing up

Anal her and find out.

[GLOW]

Guaranteed the median age is over 50.


bruh there's an entire genre dedicated to this :ifyouknow: KEKW:awwyeah:

[CivicBlues]

GGILFs?

[GS8]

here's an interesting new topic

how do you know a girl is putting in effort vs showing up

Usually you can tell by their messages. Are they short? Repetitive? Lacking substance? Mostly talking about herself?

All red flags. Don't waste $4 on that town bike.

[BIC_BAWS]

And to add to that, does she initiate conversations? Ask you questions that to genuinely get to know you? If she knows what your fav food is, does she randomly show up at your doorstep with it?

[bcrdukes]

Does she know you're on RS? :D

[Gerbs]

Usually you can tell by their messages. Are they short? Repetitive? Lacking substance? Mostly talking about herself?

All red flags. Don't waste $4 on that town bike.

what if it's well thought messages but 1x a day!

[68style]

Maybe it takes her all day to write out one cohesive thought

[GS8]

what if it's well thought messages but 1x a day!

If she's good with her words, like making genuinely witty comebacks and retorts on-the-fly, those are green flags.

But it shouldn't take a day. If she's interested, she'll actually invest time in the conversation.

And if they ever reply with just 'indeed', go and dropkick them.

[Tapioca]

what if it's well thought messages but 1x a day!

If they're into you, they will make it easy for you.

They will come to you and find ways to spend time with you. They'll message you multiple times a day.

It's not hard, guys.

[bcrdukes]

It's not hard, guys.

I think this is where you are wrong. We had to create a thread to discuss just this topic alone! :peek:

[unit]

when i was like mid 20s i was attracted to a girl that basically showed no interest in me, so i figured that i would try to be that persistent dude, something i never really did before.

i only messaged her 1-2x a day, but for like 2 weeks. she always responded kinda neutral or positive so i kept going. eventually we did date a bit and became friends after it didnt work out.

so ya i guess some weirdos do message only once a day, but it's not a healthy start of a two way relationship. if two people actually like each other its just obvious beyond what can be explained here..

[Gerbs]

Maybe it takes her all day to write out one cohesive thought

it's not cohesive nor that serious haha lmao

when i was like mid 20s i was attracted to a girl that basically showed no interest in me, so i figured that i would try to be that persistent dude, something i never really did before.

i only messaged her 1-2x a day, but for like 2 weeks. she always responded kinda neutral or positive so i kept going. eventually we did date a bit and became friends after it didnt work out.

so ya i guess some weirdos do message only once a day, but it's not a healthy start of a two way relationship. if two people actually like each other its just obvious beyond what can be explained here..

All my best relationships/situationships stemmed from high interest!

[Badhobz]

Revscene turning into Incelscene

[68style]

I mean… that seems obvious lol (Gerbs comment not the incel one… altho……… )

[CivicBlues]

Have you tried negging?


/s

[donk.]

Negging ("to neg", meaning "negative feedback") is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and attempt to engender in them a need for the manipulator's approval.[1] The term was coined and prescribed by pickup artists.[1]

Gerbs, are you a qualified pickup artist?

[6793026]

so this was unqiue. I did exactly what you all did.. are you engaged and are they responding to text.. 1 text a day is gay given people spend 10 hrs on IG and phones.

Before I met my wife, we woudl go on dates, but very lack of responses. Spurt of a moment then stops and repeat. I stayed in the game and after 4-5 dates, called her out. If you're not interested, i'm ok. I'm NOT here to make friends, i got tons of buddies and can careless I was 41 and she's 38 - i was just being honest and respectful of your eggs since you say you want to get married and have a kid.

I joked giving the dates we go on - 1 date every 3 weeks - I guess I'll see you in 3 weeks. Didn't believe me and then she went back to text and mapped out on her calendar and then ramped up on our dates and we become more steady.

Best of luck to you. 99% a girl doesn't give effort, peace outtttttttt. If you define the relationship, and they still do that.. then game over.

[Dbone]

Spurt of a moment

:badpokerface:

[Badhobz]

well you spurted her good.

[spoon.ek9]

I know we aren't talking about apps right now, nor encouraging the use of them but I thought I'd share some things I deduced after years of using them

1. If her profile pics are all at angles, full make up, and/or always has filters on, she's hiding her true self. The more honest girls will often times include 1-2 photos of herself without any of this crap. They'll complain about guys using old photos in their profiles (valid point usually) but then deceive you with all of the above.

2. If all of her photos are all group pics and she doesn't specify which one she is, she's the ugly one :lol

3. The most eye-rolling quote they add to their profiles is "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best". To me, it's akin to girls almost universally hating pictures of men holding a fish.

4. If they don't include a single photo of themselves from head to toe, they are absolutely hiding something.

5. Perhaps my biggest annoyance is girls who post photos where you can ONLY see the back of their head. Girl, I ain't here to date the back of your head. If you can't even post a single photo of your face, apps are 100% not for you.

[MarkyMark]

Have you tried negging?


/s

Throw on some Ed Hardy jeans, Affliction t-shirt and Von Dutch hat while you're at it

[teggy604]

5. Perhaps my biggest annoyance is girls who post photos where you can ONLY see the back of their head. Girl, I ain't here to date the back of your head. If you can't even post a single photo of your face, apps are 100% not for you.

Ya. I always report those. And profiles where there is only one picture of themselves.

[6793026]

1. If her profile pics are all at angles, full make up, and/or always has filters on, she's hiding her true self. The more honest girls will often times include 1-2 photos of herself without any of this crap. They'll complain about guys using old photos in their profiles (valid point usually) but then deceive you with all of the above.

Few years ago, i asked my friend and they said if you date mainland china 99.9999% of the girls are using filters. I'm sorry but NO ONE EVER takes pics without filters

https://photinegraphy.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/chinese-girls-makeup-before-and-after-16.jpg

This was easily few years ago so i can't image now...

[Gerbs]

[I]

Gerbs, are you a qualified pickup artist?

i am a qualified autistic retard

[donk.]

I love all the dudes simping over the skinny filter girls

https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQ98_AhQmJwGyKjC3X5ZeywAdsQAtKnJ FcyhhknbUIplA5HDQ6Ys4yzH3o&s=10

What a day and time to be alive as a woman:
Take pic or video > slap on face / body filter > say your single online > RAKE in money

Although their days are numbered, i see way too many AI profiles of above now (dudes raking in other dudes money lol)

[Badhobz]

i dont know about that. i wouldnt pay these digital cunts a dime. maybe thats more of your generation thing.

[spoon.ek9]

Yeah I don't understand this culture of simping at all. Why are dudes donating large sums of money to girls online when their chances of ever dating them is 0%?

Then you also get guys who lose their shit, start stalking, and some who even get close enough to cause psychological and/or bodily harm to these girls. It's insane. These men actually develop a sense of ownership on these girls because they feel like their money somehow grants them that.

[bcrdukes]

Wait, so there are guys out there who give money to some random girl online and will never meet? Do they ever get anything in return? :confused:

I mean, at least djstyles is getting something when he's on "vacation."

[spoon.ek9]

Some guys are seriously donating thousands to their favourite streamers hoping they'll notice them. I believe there are stories about men skipping out on rent to make donations. Some of them are already in relationships too. It makes no sense at all.

And of course, these girls are happy to take the money and then later complain about the negative attention. It's a double edged sword... "thanks for the donos! <3" followed by "men are so gross, bunch of incels" etc. It's a vicious cycle :lol

[MarkyMark]

I really don't understand the onlyfans thing, if you're gonna blow your cash like that get a real fucking escort at least you're getting something out of it.

[spoon.ek9]

yeah that's weird to me too. just cornhub and call it a day. ain't no different.

[donk.]

Yeah I don't understand this culture of simping at all. Why are dudes donating large sums of money to girls online when their chances of ever dating them is 0%?



If your a cave troll thats never hit on a woman, let alone kissed one, they think their odds are probably 1-5%

"She liked my comment" (with donation)
"She is talking to me" (after donation)
"She asks me about my day" (unlike gerbs women)
"She sends me photos that no one else has" (but actually everyone else for 5$ has lol)

And the next level whores that send nudez.... "Wow she sent me naked pics! A few more dollars and she is gonna meet me!"

I remember reading about some dude that was simping over some texas whore that makes videos of her jumping up and down with J size tits in a bra. He sent her money because the onlyfans "hinted" that he would get nudes, and then the onlyfans was just more videos of her in a bra jumping up and down.
So he posted his findings on reddit or something...
And to my surprise, there was DOZENS of men complaining about the same thing about her in comments. "I wish she was honest about what you get, shes so shady" etc

[noclue]

If your a cave troll thats never hit on a woman, let alone kissed one, they think their odds are probably 1-5%

"She liked my comment" (with donation)
"She is talking to me" (after donation)
"She asks me about my day" (unlike gerbs women)
"She sends me photos that no one else has" (but actually everyone else for 5$ has lol)

And the next level whores that send nudez.... "Wow she sent me naked pics! A few more dollars and she is gonna meet me!"

I remember reading about some dude that was simping over some texas whore that makes videos of her jumping up and down with J size tits in a bra. He sent her money because the onlyfans "hinted" that he would get nudes, and then the onlyfans was just more videos of her in a bra jumping up and down.
So he posted his findings on reddit or something...
And to my surprise, there was DOZENS of men complaining about the same thing about her in comments. "I wish she was honest about what you get, shes so shady" etc

Why don't they just go to Germany/Australia/Amsterdam where brothels are legalized and regulated instead of spending money on shit like this?

[donk.]

Brothels are dirty hookers
Online women are pure

IN QUOTATIONS

[roastpuff]

Why don't they just go to Germany/Australia/Amsterdam where brothels are legalized and regulated instead of spending money on shit like this?

You think these guys have passports? Lmao

[bcrdukes]

You think these guys have passports? Lmao

"What's a passport?" - :derp:

[unit]

i can sort of understand onlyfans from a pay $5/mo pov, i mean i don't do it, but i can understand it.

donating to streamers just because you had a horny urge to do so to see her shake her ass for 10 seconds makes no sense to me. she's doing it every so often anyway when other people donate... why cant you just wait a minute to see it for free.

[CivicBlues]

The guys paying for onlyfans and simping are not able to talk to girls in real life, that includes escorts and hoes abroad. They also have no money. They're not going to drop a few grand to get laid abroad vs a $50 to watch some cheap ho online

[teggy604]

I really don't understand the onlyfans thing, if you're gonna blow your cash like that get a real fucking escort at least you're getting something out of it.

Is strip club a thing anymore?

When I was in my 20s, my buddies and I would hit up no5, Brandis, Paramount etc..

$20 lap dances. Some girls were pretty wild I must say.

[BIC_BAWS]

I knew someone who is (hopefully was) a deadbeat, didn't go to school, worked a minimum wage job that spent all his money on streamers ... retard.

[yray]

one hour with a fancy escort is cheaper than trying to wine and dine a chick with a 50% chance of getting laid that night :okay:

[Badhobz]

Also economical to buy a ticket to Germany, enter a red light district brothel and get all your jollies for like 75 euros (1h).

[donk.]

Is strip club a thing anymore?



Djstyles would like to have a word with you

[spoon.ek9]

well this is why.... when you do the math....


not that I encourage it but ya, if you got no game spend your money wisely :lol

[bcrdukes]

Also economical to buy a ticket to Germany, enter a red light district brothel and get all your jollies for like 75 euros (1h).

Doing the math, you would not only maximize your satisfaction, but from a value and economic perspective, you come out further ahead compared to a date with a random Vancouver girl. If anyone wants my Excel model, please PM me! :)

:pokerface:

[noclue]

Doing the math, you would not only maximize your satisfaction, but from a value and economic perspective, you come out further ahead compared to a date with a random Vancouver girl. If anyone wants my Excel model, please PM me! :)

:pokerface:

A brothel in Germany offers a "All You Can Fuck" option, does that change the math?

[spoon.ek9]

talk about bang for your buck LUL

[Badhobz]

all the wives and girlfriends reading this thread have probably already fainted.

i told my wife to read this thread and shes like well fuck you guys, youre all a bunch of hamsup lo

[bcrdukes]

A brothel in Germany offers a "All You Can Fuck" option, does that change the math?

My Excel broke. :concentrate:

[punkwax]

So I’ve been on Tinder for 3-4 weeks now and Hinge for 2 or so. Only uglies have liked my profile. Likely because I avoid social media and don’t take selfies. I just dug through group photos I had and cropped everyone else out so my photos probably don’t stack up against tattooed gym bros. *ducks Mike*

I almost pulled a solid 8.5 the other week at a sales conference so I know I still got it. Then she told me her husband has stage 4 cancer so I noped outta that. Couldn’t do that to a healthy person, let alone someone sick.

Online dating is tough for a guy who isn’t on social media and uses real life charm it seems.

[bcrdukes]

Wow. Good guy punkwax. I think you just earned yourself a spot in heaven in the afterlife!

Good on you for putting yourself out there (the old school way!) :)

[68style]

A brothel in Germany offers a "All You Can Fuck" option, does that change the math?

I think we're all mostly at an age where you'd be 1 and done.. maybe 2 if you go take a nap hahahaha not the best value

[Infiniti]

I think we're all mostly at an age where you'd be 1 and done.. maybe 2 if you go take a nap hahahaha not the best value

Thats what pills are for.

[unit]

I think we're all mostly at an age where you'd be 1 and done.. maybe 2 if you go take a nap hahahaha not the best value

the mind is willing but the flesh is weak

[6793026]

So I’ve been on Tinder for 3-4 weeks now and Hinge for 2 or so. Only uglies have liked my profile. Likely because I avoid social media and don’t take selfies. I just dug through group photos I had and cropped everyone else out so my photos probably don’t stack up against tattooed gym bros. *ducks Mike*

I almost pulled a solid 8.5 the other week at a sales conference so I know I still got it. Then she told me her husband has stage 4 cancer so I noped outta that. Couldn’t do that to a healthy person, let alone someone sick.

Online dating is tough for a guy who isn’t on social media and uses real life charm it seems.
don't know how old you are but if u're in your 40-50s you're in a whole lot of fun meeting some damaged straight shot woman who's ready.

[Traum]

OK, why is this thread slotted under "Off Topic / Current Events" instead of "Relationships & Dating Scene"?

https://www.revscene.net/forums/relationships-dating-scene_17/

CBC girls are broke ass bitches, ignore them for your future's sake
Sure, they might have a "high paying job" (relative to Vancouver average) but most of them are broke AF.
Why are they like that though? Bcos of all the avocado toast and BBT that they bought? :badpokerface:

[spoon.ek9]

the mind is willing but the flesh is weak

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Bew11meO7g

[Badhobz]

OK, why is this thread slotted under "Off Topic / Current Events" instead of "Relationships & Dating Scene"?

https://www.revscene.net/forums/relationships-dating-scene_17/



Why are they like that though? Bcos of all the avocado toast and BBT that they bought? :badpokerface:

No cuz most of them come from broke ass Guangdong fucks whose parents were like my parents. Waiters. Dishwashers. Ironing shirts, etc etc.

You think they have anything left to give their shitty kids ? Besides a lousy east van house that’s worth 1.6mil. That’s why all these bitches are broke. They come from peasant stock. The Guangdong hoarder doesn’t fall far from the hoarder tree.

Then you add in modern day materialism and feminism propaganda and brainwashing where they think they all deserve the best looking gerbs like husband while working a shitty 50k a year HR job and dreaming about Hermes’ handbags. Fuck you you stupid cunts.

Skip all that. Go straight to the source.

HK money. Shanghai money. Taipei money.
Nips are all broke so fuck that shit.
Gooks got some money but are often too Christian and old fashion that they’ll make you eat with their brothers and father first.
Nammers broke
Flips broke but nice (probably the best to build a life with, if your racist Chong parents can stand you bringing home a “darkie”)
Singaporeans. If you can stand their singlish sure.

White girls ? Hmmm… some do have money but that’s far and few

Nobody mentioned dating Indian girls …. And nobody ever will.

[Gerbs]

what do you need a rich china wife for, I unlocked everything I want already :lawl:


fr, give me suggestions on things worth spending more $$$ on to make life better

[Badhobz]

Psssh. You know nothing of wealth young man. Nothing.

Here’s one: you literally don’t have to work again. If that’s not the ultimate perk I don’t know what is. You can be like me and work just as an eccentric hobby.

You wanna run around like a retard for health ?!? You can do that everyday ! Any time of day !

No mortgage. No responsibilities. No debt.

You have problems sleeping ?! You’ll sleep a lot better on a pile of money.

[bcrdukes]

It's a humble brag, if anything. (No judgements on my part but I am jealous.)

[spoon.ek9]

Like I said before, if things don't work out for me Hobz is tasked with finding me a rich China bitch to be my sugar momma. I wanna eat that soft rice while living in a single detached house with my cars and future dogs.

[Badhobz]

IT WILL BE DONE-ITH !

[mikemhg]

To add to the fun here, speaking about sugar babying. My ex moved out while I was away in Mexico, so about 2ish week ago. That in itself was a little nerve inducing not knowing what I was coming home to.

Luckily it was ok, so that was a relief. Some of my ex's friends reached out to me to give me a rundown about what she's been up to. Apparently she had joined Luxy.com and Sugar Daddy Meet prior to us breaking up and was already amassing old dudes in her back pocket. I won't get into too many details about some of the gross stuff that happened (you don't want to get notifications for prescriptions being filled for "things" while you're on vacation), but she's currently in Hawaii right now with some old brown dude she met off the website, on their second date. She apparently has 4 other guys on the go that have been promising her a monthly allowance, pay off her bills, and expenses.

One of my buds is down in Hawaii with his family and he shoots me a msg yesterday morning telling me he saw my ex walking around the lobby of his hotel with an "elderly south Asian man", I told him fuck off, and he Facetimed me to prove he's there, LOL. He said it looked like an escort arrangement given how much older the guy was than her. Completely random that they're both staying in the Sheraton Waikiki.

We have been broken up for about a month now, and boy has she moved fast. If you told me a year ago that we'd split and she'd be running through old dudes on sugar baby websites, I would never have believed it. It's all been a real mindfuck really, I've never had a woman dog me out like this, to this day we still haven't spoken since the big blow up when I confronted her on all the devious behind the back things she was up to. It's crazy when you think you know someone over 6 years, but you really don't. It's also weird to go 6 years talking to someone daily, and then have them completely ice you out, persona non grata, like nothing ever mattered.

Sort of makes me laugh about all the mental angst I was having on deciding on a child with her and everything else, what a complete waste of energy that was :lol

Gerbs is right, some of these women nowadays are different.

[GS8]

To add to the fun here, speaking about sugar babying. My ex moved out while I was away in Mexico, so about 2ish week ago. That in itself was a little nerve inducing not knowing what I was coming home to.

Luckily it was ok, so that was a relief. Some of my ex's friends reached out to me to give me a rundown about what she's been up to. Apparently she had joined Luxy.com and Sugar Daddy Meet prior to us breaking up and was already amassing old dudes in her back pocket. I won't get into too many details about some of the gross stuff that happened (you don't want to get notifications for prescriptions being filled for "things" while you're on vacation), but she's currently in Hawaii right now with some old brown dude she met off the website, on their second date. She apparently has 4 other guys on the go that have been promising her a monthly allowance, pay off her bills, and expenses.

One of my buds is down in Hawaii with his family and he shoots me a msg yesterday morning telling me he saw my ex walking around the lobby of his hotel with an "elderly south Asian man", I told him fuck off, and he Facetimed me to prove he's there, LOL. He said it looked like an escort arrangement given how much older the guy was than her. Completely random that they're both staying in the Sheraton Waikiki.

We have been broken up for about a month now, and boy has she moved fast. If you told me a year ago that we'd split and she'd be running through old dudes on sugar baby websites, I would never have believed it. It's all been a real mindfuck really, I've never had a woman dog me out like this, to this day we still haven't spoken since the big blow up when I confronted her on all the devious behind the back things she was up to. It's crazy when you think you know someone over 6 years, but you really don't. It's also weird to go 6 years talking to someone daily, and then have them completely ice you out, persona non grata, like nothing ever mattered.

Sort of makes me laugh about all the mental angst I was having on deciding on a child with her and everything else, what a complete waste of energy that was :lol

Gerbs is right, some of these women nowadays are different.


And yet it's 'only women who are still being oppressed' :derp:

Maybe oppressed as in "not enough days in the week to spread your legs like an airport runway'

[GLOW]

i'm shocked (not sure why) that a lot of those stories i hear about on r pill stories are health care workers.

the universe did you a favour, enjoy the windfall of not being tangled up further or kids etc.
http://media.tenor.com/AWziMzQk8VcAAAAM/dodge-neo.gif

[MarkyMark]

Jesus Christ Mike hopefully she didn't give you anything nasty in the later parts of your relationship, who knows how long she's been doing this for. Fucking insane man, she's gone full blown hooker mode a decade and a half later than most women.

[6793026]

hang in there my man, at the end of the day when ur ex turns 50/60 she'll be the lonely one with botox, bad makeup and realized she has nothing at the end.

[mikemhg]

Luckily we hadn't been intimate for months prior to the breakup, so I'm all good on that end. Her karma I guess :lol

It's so odd she'd go that route, given it's not like she's a secretary or barista or something, I could never imagine boning some old broad for a free trip and having to sleep in the same bed with a stranger for a week.

I found out she was on these websites before we started dating as well, so it seems like she just fell back into her prior pattern from before me.

It's starting to seem like the baby thing was all a ruse to a degree, maybe an excuse to end things, and really it all came down to wanting a sugar baby arrangement.

[MarkyMark]

I wonder what her plan is. She was already making good money at her job, does she just want a bunch of free trips and extra cash? Is she gonna continue to work or take a leave and do this full time?

So nasty what some women are willing to do for free shit.

[SSM_DC5]

Wow nurses are messed up! Westopher! Are you ok too?

[mikemhg]

I wonder what her plan is. She was already making good money at her job, does she just want a bunch of free trips and extra cash? Is she gonna continue to work or take a leave and do this full time?

So nasty what some women are willing to do for free shit.

She always complained about working as a nurse, I'm sure it's a hard job.

I think her eventual goal is to either pivot to part-time, or leave the industry entirely at some point.

This is likely a means to either or.

[GLOW]

It's starting to seem like the baby thing was all a ruse to a degree, maybe an excuse to end things, and really it all came down to wanting a sugar baby arrangement.

maybe if she got you trying, the baby talk was to cover her tracks if she got preggo acting wild 'n out?

[Traum]

We have been broken up for It's crazy when you think you know someone over 6 years, but you really don't. It's also weird to go 6 years talking to someone daily, and then have them completely ice you out, persona non grata, like nothing ever mattered.

Isn't it generally like this though? While the duration of my relationships are certainly different than yours here, most of the time me and my ex'es have completely severed any and all forms of contact, even when we had mutual friends.

And Sheraton Waikiki... damn I have stayed there before, and can really put up a whole bunch of mental images of what the scene was like...

[punkwax]

In an earlier post I said it was only uglies who like my profile. I had forgotten about the red flags in their early 20’s with daddy issues. They’re out there!

[bcrdukes]

Have you met any in person?

For the benefit of the forum, I'm curious if your experiences are aligned with the behaviours described from Gerbs and spoon.ek9's dating experience with the modern Vancouver woman?

[unit]

I wonder what her plan is. She was already making good money at her job, does she just want a bunch of free trips and extra cash? Is she gonna continue to work or take a leave and do this full time?

So nasty what some women are willing to do for free shit.

she had a ton of debt right? i guess it was an easy way to quickly pay all that off. once you're in that lifestyle though and the money is easy, i don't see how you would ever get out of it.
so glad you dodged that bullet mikey

[MarkyMark]

she had a ton of debt right? i guess it was an easy way to quickly pay all that off. once you're in that lifestyle though and the money is easy, i don't see how you would ever get out of it.
so glad you dodged that bullet mikey

Yeah but I think she's pushing 40 so realistically how much longer can she do it for? I'm assuming she's already lying about her age on there to compete with girls much younger. What's the market for a sugar baby in their 40s when I'm assuming a lot of them are in their 20s.

[CivicBlues]

Maybe not every rich 60 year old is into some 20-something airhead. Hell I'm early-40s and these new model 20-somethings seem more like teenagers to me than ever.

Mike you didn't just dodge a bullet you dodged a goddamn tomahawk missile!

[Badhobz]

Ho 4 sho
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/geCTN_oUe8k

[GS8]

I remember when my ex left me in 2022 to go chase a scrubby, white pot-smoking hippie in Victoria (yeah I know, 80% of gen pop) who was 14 years younger than her.

That only lasted about a year. She's been single since :lol

I'm sure she's had dates but given her age now, she's considered 'out of bounds' by men :lol

[supafamous]

Since we got a lotta older big dollar ballers here I would hope we can get some tips on how to be a sugar daddy and what it's like.

[punkwax]

Have you met any in person?

For the benefit of the forum, I'm curious if your experiences are aligned with the behaviours described from Gerbs and spoon.ek9's dating experience with the modern Vancouver woman?

Not yet, no. I bring a lot to the table so I’m choosey.

Almost responded to the last tatted up blond 21 y/o to hit me up but my brother talked me off the ledge lol

[bcrdukes]

I remember when my ex left me in 2022 to go chase a scrubby, white pot-smoking hippie in Victoria (yeah I know, 80% of gen pop) who was 14 years younger than her.

Why do they do this? I've never understood this.

[GS8]

Why do they do this? I've never understood this.

Men with younger women seems much more common.

It seems like women with younger men only works if those men are confined to high school student classrooms.

(Like if your name was Mary Kay Letourneau)

[Traum]

If I were 22 all over again, I would totally go for a 40+ yrs old sugar mama~ :lawl:

(But she gotta be loaded though -- like, LOADED.)

[6793026]

I had 2 X that left and also surprisingly cheated on me. Again, lesson learned.

One got married and had kids after me and turns out husband has been cheated also on her for years into the marriage. 10 yrs of marriage after she discovered, she is now single mother of two. I'm at fault of this, i cheated on her first LOL.

2nd girl.. well she's the sterotypical rich family never has to work in life yet work in health care - "why can't we go out and eat all teh time" "why are my friend so cheap" i'm like.. causre you are a millionaire and people are still working entry level jobs girl.. dangggg

apartment / car / monthly allowance from family., anyhoo.. don't blame her.. her dog eats organics and fish oil pills. THe dog's meal was probably more expensive than what i eat daily.

[spoon.ek9]

To add to the fun here, speaking about sugar babying. My ex moved out while I was away in Mexico, so about 2ish week ago. That in itself was a little nerve inducing not knowing what I was coming home to.

Luckily it was ok, so that was a relief. Some of my ex's friends reached out to me to give me a rundown about what she's been up to. Apparently she had joined Luxy.com and Sugar Daddy Meet prior to us breaking up and was already amassing old dudes in her back pocket. I won't get into too many details about some of the gross stuff that happened (you don't want to get notifications for prescriptions being filled for "things" while you're on vacation), but she's currently in Hawaii right now with some old brown dude she met off the website, on their second date. She apparently has 4 other guys on the go that have been promising her a monthly allowance, pay off her bills, and expenses.

One of my buds is down in Hawaii with his family and he shoots me a msg yesterday morning telling me he saw my ex walking around the lobby of his hotel with an "elderly south Asian man", I told him fuck off, and he Facetimed me to prove he's there, LOL. He said it looked like an escort arrangement given how much older the guy was than her. Completely random that they're both staying in the Sheraton Waikiki.

We have been broken up for about a month now, and boy has she moved fast. If you told me a year ago that we'd split and she'd be running through old dudes on sugar baby websites, I would never have believed it. It's all been a real mindfuck really, I've never had a woman dog me out like this, to this day we still haven't spoken since the big blow up when I confronted her on all the devious behind the back things she was up to. It's crazy when you think you know someone over 6 years, but you really don't. It's also weird to go 6 years talking to someone daily, and then have them completely ice you out, persona non grata, like nothing ever mattered.

Sort of makes me laugh about all the mental angst I was having on deciding on a child with her and everything else, what a complete waste of energy that was :lol

Gerbs is right, some of these women nowadays are different.

https://media2.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExMGJsZG1nODZ6bGlhZDJ4bWdvcm9sc3N 0YzNwemdvbGsyeXo4M242NiZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfY nlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/l3ZgPrRGMyIoJRB5IN/giphy.gif

iykyk

she proved beyond a shadow of a doubt you made the right decision

[Gerbs]

T

Gerbs is right, some of these women nowadays are different.

just got my hope back on the ones I am seeing, let me believe they're good BibleThump

[Gerbs]

Maybe not every rich 60 year old is into some 20-something airhead.

Also some can't afford the attractive 20-30yo's

[donk.]

Also some can't afford the attractive 20-30yo's

Cue:

Bruh it just gets worse. The older you get the more women you start going hmmmmm about, your level of acceptance expands and at some point anything is goon material I imagine.

68style gonna be 68sugardaddy soon

[Badhobz]

Since we got a lotta older big dollar ballers here I would hope we can get some tips on how to be a sugar daddy and what it's like.

Tips ? What tips

You spend money for company and potentially sex. You like ? No ?

I can’t imagine ever being that lonely that I would pay for companionship. Id pay to be left the fuck alone.

[GS8]

Not yet, no. I bring a lot to the table so IÂ’m choosey.

Almost responded to the last tatted up blond 21 y/o to hit me up but my brother talked me off the ledge lol

Uhh

You dine and dash...

[spoon.ek9]

There have been instances in the past where men have bailed on their date due to poor behaviour lol. I imagine it was rather satisfying to leave such a girl to foot the bill.

[bcrdukes]

I had to do that once back in the day. A girl I met with for dinner had table manners worse than Cookie Monster, I had to excuse myself, paid the bill, apologize to the waitress, and then left.

[spoon.ek9]

The ones I'm thinking of are where the girl orders a ridiculous amount of food either for her own takeaway or to feed her kids (which the dudes probably didn't know about). I believe there was one case in Asia where the women invited her family without the guy's knowledge to test his generosity.

[GS8]

Uhh

You dine and dash...

This also applies sexually too

[bcrdukes]

^
That is messed up lol (testing generousity)

[spoon.ek9]

These are some of the dumbest ideas women have come up with when it comes to dating and think they've done nothing wrong at all. YOU simply aren't man enough to reach their standards SeemsGood

[6793026]

^ there were also the ones dine and dash and forgetting her cell phone.. so they had to go back and then pay for the meal..

What were these people thinkingggggg

[Gerbs]

a girl friend asked this this morning "A follow-up question: how should girls put in efforts, other than initiating/ planning dates sometimes"

aside from physical affections too, that's implied

[68style]

Jesus people still need instruction manuals for the very basics of relating to or caring about another person after thousands of years?

[spoon.ek9]

It's not too surprising to be honest. Women have been telling each other what to demand from men and spend zero time talking about what they could/should do for their man.

Even when I asked my friend (who's married with kids) what she brings to the table, she couldn't give me an answer. She's a good mom, she's smart pharmacist, cooks elaborate Chinese meals, and takes care of her husband when needed. Those are all excellent traits to have in a wife. But for her to actually sit down and think about any of that was just drawing blanks in her mind.

This is in contrast to the laundry list of demands for what men should offer. Lots of girls with the "I'm the prize" or "I am the table" or "I bring my presence" mentalities :facepalm:

[Traum]

Even when I asked my friend (who's married with kids) what she brings to the table, she couldn't give me an answer. She's a good mom, she's smart pharmacist, cooks elaborate Chinese meals, and takes care of her husband when needed. Those are all excellent traits to have in a wife. But for her to actually sit down and think about any of that was just drawing blanks in her mind.

To be fair though, I think a lot of people don't know / are not able to name even a tenth of their own strengths even though they possess those strengths, and continue to practice those strengths on a daily basis. So I am not surprised by your female friend's inability to name what she brings to the table despite her many good qualities.

I also know more than a few people who are like that.

And then you run into other people who claim they have all these strengths, and are all that, and none of it is true. :lawl:

[RabidRat]

It's not too surprising to be honest. Women have been telling each other what to demand from men and spend zero time talking about what they could/should do for their man.

Sounds like insecurity. The more someone's focused on external factors, the more likely it is that they're compensating for a lack of trust in themselves.


Even when I asked my friend (who's married with kids) what she brings to the table, she couldn't give me an answer. She's a good mom, she's smart pharmacist, cooks elaborate Chinese meals, and takes care of her husband when needed. Those are all excellent traits to have in a wife. But for her to actually sit down and think about any of that was just drawing blanks in her mind.

Doesn't that seem right though? Imo if anyone's spending any conscious time counting up with all the ways they're contributing, it just drives up the likelihood that they'd turn around and think "wait a minute... but what is everyone else doing for me, in return?"

Out of limited time and energy - trying to make it through a hard enough life as it is - it seems an unnecessary burden to think about a relationship as a series of ledgers.

I think a healthier way to think about things, is "what more could I do?", rather than "what am I already doing?".

[Gerbs]

Jesus people still need instruction manuals for the very basics of relating to or caring about another person after thousands of years?

girls were taught on what a man can do for her and if he doesn't elevate her life she's staying single, extra cooked if dad was successful / great father



men were taught how to treat girls growing up

[Gerbs]

I think a healthier way to think about things, is "what more could I do?", rather than "what am I already doing?".

the modern era is, girl is doing something good for her partner, then all their gfs are telling girl, you shouldn't do anything for your mans, I ain't doing shit. he should be doing all this for you queen.

as he fucking should! :awwyeah:

[spoon.ek9]

Sounds like insecurity. The more someone's focused on external factors, the more likely it is that they're compensating for a lack of trust in themselves.



Doesn't that seem right though? Imo if anyone's spending any conscious time counting up with all the ways they're contributing, it just drives up the likelihood that they'd turn around and think "wait a minute... but what is everyone else doing for me, in return?"

Out of limited time and energy - trying to make it through a hard enough life as it is - it seems an unnecessary burden to think about a relationship as a series of ledgers.

I think a healthier way to think about things, is "what more could I do?", rather than "what am I already doing?".

This is how I had always approached relationships only to be met by women who kept calculating everything about me to the nth degree. I don't want to calculate, I don't want to compare. I just wanted bring my absolute best to each relationship and it always went to shit despite my best efforts. It was only after several terrible experiences that I started to learn what it is women are expecting and here we are.

[Badhobz]

this new group of women in the dating pool sounds about as bad as modern day cars.

High strung, unreliable, overpriced, lackluster and unnecessary features and lame resale value

ill stick with my old battleaxe!

[GS8]

Jesus people still need instruction manuals for the very basics of relating to or caring about another person after thousands of years?

People addicted to screens remind me exactly of long-term prisoners.

When both are free from their cells, neither know how to function in the real world.

[68style]

girls were taught on what a man can do for her and if he doesn't elevate her life she's staying single, extra cooked if dad was successful / great father



men were taught how to treat girls growing up

I think that’s just girls you talk to dude, tonnes of girls have their own interesting shit going on and aren’t sitting around waiting for a daddy

[6793026]

a girl friend asked this this morning "A follow-up question: how should girls put in efforts, other than initiating/ planning dates sometimes"

aside from physical affections too, that's implied

Hunter gatherers. Girls are never taught how to hunt. That's the issue.

Girls need to be engaged in texts. Appreciation and all the little things. It's funny how they want chivalry yes don't know how to say thank you and respond back.

How about learning to pay for a meal. How about learn to ask a guy out to DO something. How about learning to DTR (Define The Relatioship) when it gets there. Many are just in the mode of being hit on (not physically) so it's tough for them to shift their mind. Too bad so sad.

If you're single and not getting dates, either you ugly or you're damaged.

[!LittleDragon]

this new group of women in the dating pool sounds about as bad as modern day cars.

High strung, unreliable, overpriced, lackluster and unnecessary features and lame resale value

ill stick with my old battleaxe!


I like my bitches like I like my beer... cold and bitter

[spoon.ek9]

New trend appearing on tiktok apparently where women "joke" about assaulting their bf/husbands with furniture garnering tens of thousands of likes and millions of views. Just imagine if the roles were reversed what kind of reaction society would have...

I wouldn't have known about this had I not been sent a clip about it. Crazy.

[Gerbs]

found a girl I like, we'll see if it amounts to anything over the next 8 weeks!

[CivicBlues]

New trend appearing on tiktok apparently where women "joke" about assaulting their bf/husbands with furniture garnering tens of thousands of likes and millions of views. Just imagine if the roles were reversed what kind of reaction society would have...

I wouldn't have known about this had I not been sent a clip about it. Crazy.

Has this got something to do with the Bachelorette that got cancelled this week doing the same thing?

[spoon.ek9]

No, apparently it's them venting about their frustrations with their man. So they take videos of themselves pretending to use things like chairs to attack them. One guy is taking a nap on the couch and this women films herself pretending to pick up a kitchen chair to hit him with.

[BIC_BAWS]

So I guess I've finally reached the age where I need to start finding a partner or it looks bad for business LOL.

Got treated to dinner with a bunch of VIPs today and they were like "are you married?" "why not?" LOL

[bcrdukes]

Owned.

That makes finding the right partner even harder, but at least it drills down to specific personality and professional traits to look for.

We expect to see her at the next Stock & Noob Meet. You're welcome.

[68style]

So I guess I've finally reached the age where I need to start finding a partner or it looks bad for business LOL.

Got treated to dinner with a bunch of VIPs today and they were like "are you married?" "why not?" LOL

You forgot to mention you’re in Asia right now lol… where you’re culturally dead if you’re most married by 30

[Badhobz]

found a girl I like, we'll see if it amounts to anything over the next 8 weeks!

is this like dark buying a model 3 performance? :alone:

[CivicBlues]

No, apparently it's them venting about their frustrations with their man. So they take videos of themselves pretending to use things like chairs to attack them. One guy is taking a nap on the couch and this women films herself pretending to pick up a kitchen chair to hit him with.

I mean the Bachelorette was literally caught attacking her ex with a chair and her show got pulled this week, seems kinda coincidental dontcha think?

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/taylor-frankie-paul-seen-attacking-ex-boyfriend-chair-newly-released-v-rcna264351

Anyways Tiktok/Reels trends are stupid and spread with copycats I wouldn't read too much into it.

[RabidRat]

So I guess I've finally reached the age where I need to start finding a partner or it looks bad for business LOL.

Got treated to dinner with a bunch of VIPs today and they were like "are you married?" "why not?" LOL

Ooh. Now there's an idea for an app.

"Lack of a spouse stunting your career growth? You and everybody else! Upload your resume and get matched in seconds!"

[roastpuff]

Ooh. Now there's an idea for an app.

"Lack of a spouse stunting your career growth? You and everybody else! Upload your resume and get matched in seconds!"

Isn't that already in LinkedIn? I hear of people using it to hit on other people all the time :lawl:

[bcrdukes]

Ooh. Now there's an idea for an app.

"Lack of a spouse stunting your career growth? You and everybody else! Upload your resume and get matched in seconds!"

Isn't there an app or some kind of high-strung professional dating/networking service based out of Vancouver? I don't recall what it's called.

[unit]

im surprised nobodys created a 'lowered expectations' dating app yet.
if you're deemed too good looking you are banned from the app.
if you have too many career aspirations you are banned from the app.
the only photos accepted are the ones on your drivers license or passport.

[bcrdukes]

Gotta be more positive and rename the app to "Realistic Expectations" :D

[Badhobz]

im surprised nobodys created a 'lowered expectations' dating app yet.
if you're deemed too good looking you are banned from the app.
if you have too many career aspirations you are banned from the app.
the only photos accepted are the ones on your drivers license or passport.

That’s hilarious. It’ll look like a collection of convicts trying to get laid.

[RabidRat]

im surprised nobodys created a 'lowered expectations' dating app yet.
if you're deemed too good looking you are banned from the app.
if you have too many career aspirations you are banned from the app.
the only photos accepted are the ones on your drivers license or passport.

I fucking love it.

It's a crime against humanity that you haven't already launched this.

[68style]

unit is gonna be rich

[unit]

i need RS techbros to help launch it

[donk.]

I got plenty of ugly friends to be your first customers

[mikemhg]

im surprised nobodys created a 'lowered expectations' dating app yet.
if you're deemed too good looking you are banned from the app.
if you have too many career aspirations you are banned from the app.
the only photos accepted are the ones on your drivers license or passport.

LOL I haven't heard a lowered expectations reference for a minute, so many people don't know about that damn skit :lol

I'm starting to think Hinge and FB Dating is exactly that, all these damn woofers that are messaging me, it's fucking too much.

[Gerbs]

hinge + fb dating has 80%+ less ppl, also max a handful of cuties on there



swap it to nyc and suddenly there's 100's, but they're all the girls with 10k+ followers

[6793026]

So I guess I've finally reached the age where I need to start finding a partner or it looks bad for business LOL.

Got treated to dinner with a bunch of VIPs today and they were like "are you married?" "why not?" LOL

THIS IS the perfect timing. I always have a standard 2 questions and it gets you a bit of referral.
YES i'm still single...
a) I'm looking for a wife, it's not a meat marketing I can just pick at Save On Foods.
b) Do you know ANYONE, cause I'm open to dates. You would be surprised you do get hook ups.

im surprised nobodys created a 'lowered expectations'

Man i'm dating myself, this was from all the clips of LOWERED Expectations on Mad TV. Hilarious.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rZi41b1zcIU

[68style]

No word of a lie that skit saved me from disaster once, blind date with some girl and conversation going okay circled around to inaccurate profile photos and I made a joke by saying “Yah ‘Lowered expec-tay-shuns’” like the intro and he was like “what? Is that a show?” And I explain to her how it was this mad tv skit with ugly or undesirable people trying to date and she like SNAPPED “oh I guess you’re all about physical appearance and shallow shit like other guys is that it? Good to know” and she got up and stormed out hahahaha

Dodged. A. Bullet.

[unit]

that show's jingle is forever in my mind

[bcrdukes]

Are you desirably impaired? :lol

[bcrdukes]

im surprised nobodys created a 'lowered expectations' dating app yet.
if you're deemed too good looking you are banned from the app.
if you have too many career aspirations you are banned from the app.
the only photos accepted are the ones on your drivers license or passport.

i need RS techbros to help launch it

I'm just doing some requirements gathering and building product journeys. I'm curious - What if you are good looking but you have a massive personality defect? Would that not be a good use case for the app? :concentrate:

I'm working on some mockups and wireframes. Will share sometime this weekend.

Disclaimer: I am not a techbro.

[roastpuff]

I'm just doing some requirements gathering and building product journeys. I'm curious - What if you are good looking but you have a massive personality defect? Would that not be a good use case for the app? :concentrate:

I'm working on some mockups and wireframes. Will share sometime this weekend.

Disclaimer: I am not a techbro.

Project Title
Lowered Expectations (working title)

Project Purpose
Develop an inclusive, compatibility-first dating app designed for people who feel underserved by traditional appearance-driven dating platforms. The app will emphasize personality, values, humor, shared interests, and authentic connection over narrow physical attractiveness standards.

Background / Problem Statement
Most dating apps rely heavily on photo-first, swipe-based interaction models that reinforce conventional beauty norms and encourage superficial decision-making. As a result, many users feel overlooked, judged, or discouraged. This project aims to create a platform where people can connect in a more respectful and meaningful way, without being defined primarily by appearance.

Project Objective
Design, build, and launch a minimum viable product (MVP) for a dating app that:

Prioritizes compatibility over looks
Creates a more welcoming and less judgmental user experience
Supports authentic self-expression
Includes strong trust, safety, and moderation features
Validates market demand through pilot launch and user feedback

Scope

In Scope

Market and user research
Brand positioning and MVP strategy
Profile creation focused on personality, lifestyle, and values
Compatibility-based matching
Messaging and conversation prompts
Safety features including block, report, and moderation tools
MVP build, testing, and beta launch

Out of Scope

Video chat
Livestreaming
Advanced AI coaching features
Large-scale international rollout
Full premium subscription ecosystem at launch

Key Deliverables

One MVP dating application
User research summary and personas
Product requirements and feature definition
UX/UI wireframes and prototype
Moderation and community guidelines
Beta launch plan and KPI framework

Success Measures
The project will be considered successful if the MVP:

Launches on time and within budget
Achieves strong onboarding and profile completion rates
Generates meaningful user engagement and match-to-conversation activity
Maintains a positive user satisfaction score
Demonstrates that users feel less judged and more comfortable being authentic
Maintains low rates of harassment through effective moderation controls

Key Risks

The name or concept may be perceived as mocking or stigmatizing
Users may hesitate to join due to fear of judgment
Harassment or trolling may target vulnerable users
Niche positioning may make early growth slower
User behavior may remain appearance-focused despite the product design

Risk Mitigation

Position the brand around inclusivity and authenticity
Use respectful, non-shaming language throughout the experience
Build strong trust and safety tools from day one
Emphasize profile prompts and compatibility signals over photos
Conduct pilot testing to refine messaging, design, and onboarding

Stakeholders

Project Sponsor
Project Manager
Product Manager
UX/UI Design Team
Engineering Team
Trust & Safety / Moderation Lead
Legal / Privacy Support
Pilot Users / Beta Testers

Timeline

Discovery & Research: Weeks 1–4
Design & Prototyping: Weeks 5–8
Development: Weeks 9–16
Testing & QA: Weeks 17–19
Beta Launch: Weeks 20–22
Evaluation & Next Steps: Weeks 23–24

Guiding Principles

Respect and dignity for all users
Compatibility over appearance
Authenticity over performance
Safety by design
Inclusive and accessible experience
Humor without cruelty

Approval
Sponsor: ____________________
Project Manager: ____________________
Date: ____________________

[bcrdukes]

Alright, sweet. Who is leading the development team? And will we perform any QA/BRT and any A/B testing on the UI/UX? (Edit: Looks like you've captured it!) Someone's going to need to figure out a GTM and operational strategy. I'm done with that shit. As for the product backlog, I'm nominating Mikoyan to handle it.

Can we assume our budget is $0?

[68style]

Our budget is whatever the current trade for cash value of a Scion iM is.

[spoon.ek9]

So... who we getting to be the cover model for Lowered Expectations app??

[unit]

post your drivers license photos and the committee will decide.
mine is pretty bad... i might be a strong candidate.

[bcrdukes]

Here's the MVP mockups.

Not happy about the options to be selected. There should be one that says "I'll take what I can get"
https://i.imgur.com/OH1fNN3.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/vA7EoxX.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/8pLJJTY.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/xegMCn2.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/GE7BSLm.jpeg

[bcrdukes]

Our budget is whatever the current trade for cash value of a Scion iM is.

That's seed money that could result in a private equity buy out. Don't diss it.

[RabidRat]

Here's the MVP mockups.

Not happy about the options to be selected. There should be one that says "I'll take what I can get"
https://i.imgur.com/OH1fNN3.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/vA7EoxX.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/8pLJJTY.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/xegMCn2.jpeghttps://i.imgur.com/GE7BSLm.jpeg



Ship it!!!!

[!LittleDragon]

I can't really contribute any skills, I'm a datacenter hardware guy and can't program worth a shit... For something like that, you'd want to host on AWS or something anyways, no point having your own DC

[radeonboy]

^I'm sure you can at least vibecode your way to MVP.

[BIC_BAWS]

THIS IS the perfect timing. I always have a standard 2 questions and it gets you a bit of referral.
YES i'm still single...
a) I'm looking for a wife, it's not a meat marketing I can just pick at Save On Foods.
b) Do you know ANYONE, cause I'm open to dates. You would be surprised you do get hook ups.

That's a good idea, I'll go with that approach tonight. I'm hosting a high society event in Korea tonight at a private art gallery and the guest lists is all hot girls, celebs, and high class individuals. Maybe they'll pity a peasent like me.

[bcrdukes]

Good luck!

[68style]

PEASANT?

You're from VANCOUVER, CANADA make them all your bitch!!! Or bitches! Be up to your neck in kimchi pussy!!! Okay maybe kimchi isn't the best description given the fermented and sour nature... but kaboom that!

"Look how smoof my english is kdm's, don't worry I brought enough knee pads for all y'all"
- Bic_Baws swag