RabidRat | 01-27-2025 05:00 PM | Quote:
Originally Posted by AstulzerRZD
(Post 9163455)
I really feel like we haven't found the right words about optimizing our experiences and lifestyle. I feel like I come across contrived/superficial when I describe how things happened but most of it was really just bringing a good vibe and be someone people wanna introduce to their friends. | Eh. I don't think it's you.
I think people who are well along in their lives, are going to have found fulfillment in their own way. It's a long road. And they're likely surrounded by many others who've more or less taken that same road. They're going to be really certain that that's the only possible road. So for you to come in with radically different ideas, they're going to be a little (maybe a lot) rattled and maybe even a kind of defensive.
I think the general wisdom is that of course you shouldn't feel compelled to push yourself past a point that it's detrimental to your wellbeing and health, short and long term. And of course it's healthy and necessary to retain a solid base of relationships that are anchored in genuine care and trust.
I think it's just that what you're describing of your goals, and how you're allocating your efforts socially, probably pushes way past most people's personal capacity. But you're you and you know yourself. You alone can know what you really have capacity for. If you're having fun (sounds like yes), you're feeling fulfilled (sounds like yes), the requisite stress isn't teetering against the limits of what you and your support network can handle (you seem fine?), and you're sufficiently hedged against the worst possible outcomes (sounds like yes?), then honestly why not. |