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As a fat man, I will always have some sort of a fried food accessible. Often in my pocket.
So just ask and you shall receive

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Originally Posted by Badhobz (Post 9119140)

As a fat man, I will always have some sort of a fried food accessible. Often in my pocket.
So just ask and you shall receive

Is that a corn dog in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

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Originally Posted by sonick (Post 9119141)

Is that a corn dog in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

Yes.

meanwhile im out here asking where i can save $1 on milk tea

Badhobz would ask that too, it's in his genes (jeans?)

Is that milk tea on your jeans or are you just happy to see me?

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Originally Posted by PeanutButter (Post 9119080)

Well, the one friend who owes everyone money is a friend from grade school and we've all been friends for so long. So it feels difficult to just cut him out of our lives. He is incredibly loyal, but he's bad with money. I've learned that if you're going to lend someone money, don't expect it back from them.

I guess I feel a sense of guilt for some reason. Like, I'm living this perfect life. It's like what did I do to deserve the life I'm living? I have my own place, I have a beautiful family and a healthy relationship with my spouse, and I can go on multiple vacations a year and I religiously put money away for my retirement.

As time goes on, I have multiple friends who are going to be f*cked as they will likely still have debt, they'll have nothing saved, and when they're 70 years old, you can't live pay cheque to pay cheque because you likely can't work at the same level anymore.

Ah I'm an idiot, I just realized what your thread was really about. Sounds like you have a situation among friends where some folks are really struggling, i.e. barely surviving, while you're living a pretty high standard of living and feeling super guilty about that?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivor_guilt

Yeah I dunno man, I think people make their own choices about what sacrifices they want to make today for tomorrow's wellbeing. Sounds like they chose (and continue to choose) poorly. That's not on you.

If this is bad enough it's actually weighing on your life, you might consider taking advantage of counseling via workplace benefits. If you love to get a deal, you owe yourself to milk that system for all it's worth :D!

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Originally Posted by Badhobz (Post 9119063)

Spoiler!

Looks like you've got some panel gap gaping over there :megusta:.

https://i.imgur.com/UoE4ffJ.jpg

That's where he puts his corn dog

There's a family that reached out out to us to hangout a few times over the last year cause our kids got along in school.
Went to their kids birthday parties and a couple playdates at their place. Chatting with them they were always pretty frank about how bad inflation is and how hard it is to keep up, which we can all relate to.

After a couple hangouts at their place, we decided to reciprocate with a playdate at our place. The mom was a bit 'off' that day, and the family abruptly left early cause she wasn't feeling well. We didn't think much of it at the time.

Now it's been a few months and we haven't heard from them at all. They also were not able to make it to any of our invites either.
We find out through mutual friends (who are much closer to them than we are) that they are actually really stressed financially, and we wonder if that has something to do with us not being to hang out lately.
While we're not rich by any means, they may have felt uncomfortable realizing we're doing a bit more 'okay' than they are. Sucks if this is true, as it may help prevent us from getting together with them more often.

It's no fun wondering if you have to cancel Disney+ and Netflix while you go to another family's house and see them have 3 Roomba's, Dyson vacuums and purifiers.

Grab Disney+ through the Shaw promo (free for two years) or Amex when they had that.
Netflix just grab the 5.99 per month that has ads. These ads aren’t even that bad.

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Originally Posted by sonick (Post 9119082)

A common distortion of trauma or anxiety is downplaying positives and too heavily attributing success to luck of the draw.

It's healthy to recognize luck has a part in success (they say the biggest narcissists are those who attribute all the positive in life purely on their own talent and intelligence), but also to have a good balance of self assurance of one's own capabilities.

Spoiler!

Geese man, I feel like you're looking into my soul. I resonated with literally everything you said. I think I have a lot of reflecting that needs to be done. I appreciate your feedback, It feels like my perspective has completely changed by what you said.

^ It might be that it's a challenge with the kids. The kids see something you guys have and they want it and whine about but the parents can't give it to them, it might even be something that's really reasonable but they just can't accomodate and it makes them feel terrible. Sometimes kids don't understand or the parents shield the kids from the hardships so they grow up without a care.

Or try beating your kids a la my parents. Worked out okay…. I still have ptsd looking at a wooden spoon or a clothes hanger

What do you mean we can't afford iPhone 16 and ps6 for Christmas. How will I tik tok and only fans?

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Originally Posted by supafamous (Post 9119068)

I can't believe you Richmond boys aren't getting your fried chicken from LA Chicken. The shame.

Was waiting for this. I never go to Richmond, but when I do, it's for LA Chicken.

Best chicken in the GVRD.

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Originally Posted by mikemhg (Post 9119170)

Was waiting for this. I never go to Richmond, but when I do, it's for LA Chicken.

Best chicken in the GVRD.

Only 2 reasons to go into Richmond: LA Chicken and BBQ Master.

Fun Fact: The couple that ran LA Chicken divorced about 4-5 years ago and the lady no longer works there. It's just the guy plus some old Chinese guy who does all the cooking now.

I always tell my kids (9 and 15) that food, lodging, stuff, eating out, etc. isn't cheap and that we're very lucky to be able to afford stuff. I've shown my credit card bill to the older one and it was an eye-opening experience for him!

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Originally Posted by supafamous (Post 9119173)

She wasn’t all that bad looking. Just perpetually greasy.

No wonder he looks murderous and depressed at the same time

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Originally Posted by Badhobz (Post 9119180)

She wasn’t all that bad looking. Just perpetually greasy.

No wonder he looks murderous and depressed at the same time

Two favourite things about Chicken Lady:

1. She'd always say our order into the mic even if she was the one who was making the food. Who are you talking to lady?
2. When my brother lost about 35lbs and stopped being a fat fuck Chicken Lady goes to him one day, "You're so handsome now". We kept telling him that he shoulda slept with her for some free chicken.

I did always get the feeling like... when I went in there it's cuz I'm hungry, but then I'd go in there and interact with her and I'd be like... damn I thought I was hungry. This lady working in a chicken shack and she hungrier than anyone else coming in here.

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Or try beating your kids a la my parents. Worked out okay…. I still have ptsd looking at a wooden spoon or a clothes hanger

Got some new prize ideas for the next meat

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Originally Posted by mikemhg (Post 9119170)

Was waiting for this. I never go to Richmond, but when I do, it's for LA Chicken.

Best chicken in the GVRD.

I agree with you, it's great chicken, but It's not worth waiting 25mins+ for chicken. They take forever.

I'd rather get churches

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Originally Posted by 68style (Post 9119184)

Got some new prize ideas for the next meat

Hello feather duster! :badpokerface:

She’s not hungry. She’s thirsty