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Old 01-28-2011, 12:44 PM   #176
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Then you'd be back at square 1

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Old 01-28-2011, 02:53 PM   #177
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Well in that case to be fair to her, dont you think that you should let her know your situation so you're not leading her on?
(If she is into you)

I'm sure you'd want that same courtesy if your positions were reversed..
Oh, I have explained to her exactly where I am. I'm completely honest with my situation and where I am right now.
I'm not trying to steal her away by any means. She just recently started seeing her current guy and I guess hes not doing it for her? They have been dating for 2 weeks or something.

But regardless, like I said I've been 100% honest with her and she knows where I am right now. If she wanted to try something with me and see where it goes I would not be pushing her away but I'm not pulling her to come to me. Its all her own choice. All I'm doing is talking with her.

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Plus you wouldn't want some girl that's taken... think about it. What sort of character would the person have if they were willing to leave someone for someone else? New girl's will probably say to her bf.. "I just don't love you anymore". Sounds like your bitch of an ex.
Well being that they have been dating for 2 weeks I don't think there has been the love talk. But he seems like a flake, no money, no time for her, no want to try to spend time with her. But I don't know all the details.

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Then you'd be back at square 1
All my squares are mixed up at the moment. My life is like a jacked up rubix cube :P
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I like her for sure but I don't want to pull them apart even if it has only been 2 weeks.
But I would love to keep this girl as a friend. What to do what to do?

What should I do if she dumps her man because she would rather be with me? Shit this is confusing.
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Old 01-28-2011, 04:03 PM   #179
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The way I see it, you need all the friends you can get right now.
She can introduce you to more people, and your circle of friends will grow.

If she ends up wanting to be with you instead of her current dude, she knows whats up.
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^ fo sho... open up all the avenues... she probably has some hottie friends!
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No hottie friends. Already checked that out. Shes a girl that doesnt get along with other girls very well. Has all guy friends.
It all good. I talked to her told her the whole deal. She is into me but I told her I don't want to cause waves in her life or his and that I think its best if were just friends.

What a Saturday night tho....need more like that!!! hahaha
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So I have been trying out this friend thing with the ex and I must say that most of you are right. It's not going to work.
I cant figure out for the life of me how I can go from loving this girl with every part of me to just being her friend. It's just to much for me to handle at the moment. Who knows, in a year or two maybe we can be friends but for now I just cant do it.
I told her this and she broke down saying things like "I need you in my life" "I cant loose you" "You are so close to all of my family". I didn't really know how to respond to that but IMO she gave all of that up when she decided to not want to be with me.

I've been through a few brake ups before, and they were after long term relationships, but this one is killing me. Its been two and a half months and waking up is still the worst part of my day I need some sun so I can get the bike on the road...
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So I have been trying out this friend thing with the ex and I must say that most of you are right. It's not going to work.
I cant figure out for the life of me how I can go from loving this girl with every part of me to just being her friend. It's just to much for me to handle at the moment. Who knows, in a year or two maybe we can be friends but for now I just cant do it.
I told her this and she broke down saying things like "I need you in my life" "I cant loose you" "You are so close to all of my family". I didn't really know how to respond to that but IMO she gave all of that up when she decided to not want to be with me.

I've been through a few brake ups before, and they were after long term relationships, but this one is killing me. Its been two and a half months and waking up is still the worst part of my day I need some sun so I can get the bike on the road...
Yeah don't really can't be friends now because, in reality, you are not in a "just friends" mindset.

Also, don't listen to her "I need you in my life" bullshit. It as her choice and now she just wants all the things she is missing.
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Yeah don't really can't be friends now because, in reality, you are not in a "just friends" mindset.

Also, don't listen to her "I need you in my life" bullshit. It as her choice and now she just wants all the things she is missing.
Honestly I can understand what she is saying. I know everything about her, she has told me everything over the past 5 years and I have done the same. I'm closer to her than anyone else and she is with me but I just cant be that anymore.
Ended up deleting her off of my FB because she keept creeping me and asking who I was doing stuff with and wanting to know whats going on and whatnot. Now shes pretty pissed :P
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Honestly I can understand what she is saying. I know everything about her, she has told me everything over the past 5 years and I have done the same. I'm closer to her than anyone else and she is with me but I just cant be that anymore.
Ended up deleting her off of my FB because she keept creeping me and asking who I was doing stuff with and wanting to know whats going on and whatnot. Now shes pretty pissed :P
I'm gonna be honest and just say that she's being selfish with wanting you in her life. You're absolutely right, she gave all that up when she decided she didnt want you anymore.

Sure maybe to her there was nothing that could have been done to save your relationship, but she of all people should understand what you're going through.

Maybe she's realized now after she's lost you that she shouldn't have decided to let you go. Or maybe things with this new dude didnt work out and now she's stuck with nobody.

Either way once you're over this you'll be 10 steps ahead of her
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No hottie friends. Already checked that out. Shes a girl that doesnt get along with other girls very well.

NEVER get involved with a girl that other girls won't get involved with. I know a lot of girls say things like "it's easier to talk to guys" blah blah blah.

I don't buy that at all. If other woman don't like a woman, it can be a sign of jealously but more often than not, it's a sign something is wrong with her.
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^ Actually that's a pretty good point.
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