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View Poll Results: How Important/Often Sex In Relationship?
Not Really (1 time every 2-3 mo) 8 2.96%
Somewhat/Once in A While (1 time every mo) 37 13.70%
Often (1-2 time every week) 179 66.30%
Always (1 or 2 times every day) 46 17.04%
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Old 05-15-2012, 11:21 AM   #51
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If she "doesn't like it", then perhaps if she really values the relationship, she should seek some professional help? It might have to do with her libido, which may require a diagnosis.

And how old is your friend and partner? Most women in their late 20s and early 30s are comfortable enough with their bodies to actually enjoy sex.
A low sex drive CAN be a medical problem but it isn't necessarily.

Also you guys would be SHOCKED how many women in their 20s and even god help them 30s have never had a real orgasm, and even more how many can orgasm on their own but can not from standard, penis in vagina sex or feel too uncomfortable with their partners to really cum with them.

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Old 05-15-2012, 12:27 PM   #52
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I read in a survey that women are more sexually active in their late 20's then in their early 20's. Also, if you fail to give her orgasm then she also doesn't see much benefit to having sex. Don't blame her vagina.
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I read in a survey that women are more sexually active in their late 20's then in their early 20's. Also, if you fail to give her orgasm then she also doesn't see much benefit to having sex. Don't blame her vagina.
I've primarily dated women in their late 20s and 30s and in my experience, women who are in these age brackets are comfortable with their bodies, masturbate regularly, and enjoy sex whether or not they get off during intercourse. Many women do not climax during intercourse, but they still enjoy the physical aspects of intercourse and of course the psychological part of the experience as well.

Some women may even enjoy seeing and feeling a guy have an orgasm, if you can believe that.
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Old 05-16-2012, 02:00 AM   #54
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sex is important used to have sex with my ex....every other day...
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I read in a survey that women are more sexually active in their late 20's then in their early 20's. Also, if you fail to give her orgasm then she also doesn't see much benefit to having sex. Don't blame her vagina.
Truth. People say the best age for sex for a woman is in her 30s. My gfs who are in their mid 30s all vouched for this and I believe it. I definitely enjoy sex a lot more now than when I was 19/20. Probably because I was a noob and didn't fully understand my body.
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I wonder how many of those that voted everyday are guys lol
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I grew up in a christian family and went to church for about 16 years, got bored of God's words and left. I agree somewhat with all the teachings and bullshit

My philosophy is the first time doesn't matter before marriage or after, as long as your first was the person you love the most. Not being a sissy or something, but that's my philosophy even though out there in the world a lot of people treat sex as a pleasure tool even as the first time. I'd rather not use sex as a tool to get pleasure but instead something more meaningful towards someone I love. However, hey, that might change after a couple years but I think this is a good way to keep myself disciplined.

As for sex in a relationship, I think it's not important but a good way to bond. I think there is a better connection between each couple if you have sex, but sometimes doesn't even have to be sex, 3rd base or some intimacy is a good way as well. If there is no physical initmacy I feel it gets kinda stale after a while...? I'm only guessing. Thats just imo
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sex is pretty important to me. in all my relationships, i've always had the higher sex drive. 1-2 times a week was basic. if i had it my way back in the day, every other day would have been ideal...even just a quickie/hooking up would have been satisfactory. i was pretty quick to jump into sexual situations with my previous relationships. within the first 2 weeks, they were pretty much in the bag for me. sex was a determining factor whether or not we pursued a relationship. if it was good, then you could ask to be official.. i'd be like "aww hell yeah!". if it was bad, it was more or less "see ya later!".

nowadays, however, i feel that it would be slightly different. i've taken up abstinence for the past couple of years to reorganize my thoughts about sex r/t relationships. now i just think sex with feelings first is so much more worth it, imo. i agree that sex shouldn't be the main driving force in your relationship. i've had strictly physical relationships that in the end, always fizzled out... you need to find a balance that works for both you and your partner. quality vs. quantity applies here too
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thanks to this thread..i man'd up and talked to my gf about our problems. Seemed like i finally got my word out and now i may be able to get what i asked for i love you guys
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not sure if good or bad..but all i know is we talked it out and we solved our issue and she listened to me and i listened to her and i think its all gonna work out

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thanks to this thread..i man'd up and talked to my gf about our problems. Seemed like i finally got my word out and now i may be able to get what i asked for i love you guys
Glad to hear it! Hope your relationship grows stronger. I wish my friend was as lucky as you, hes probably gonna break it off with his gf soon (4 yrs is a long time). The only reason he cant break it off is because she relies on him so much and she comes from a broken family (I know these are both stupid reasons to stay behind, we all told him that). He can't take anymore, he talks about it all the time when he comes out even we get tired of it lol. He keeps telling us that all he feels like is a friend who is being used the shit out of, there is no difference between them and just best frds etc etc etc.

We all told him its not only the sex and the physical part of a relationship and he knows, but without it, seems like the fire and passion will die out much easier. Sex alone cannot survive in a relationship but there must be a connection/companionship also. Either one of these left alone will die but the trick is to find the balance to keep it strong.
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Glad to hear it! Hope your relationship grows stronger. I wish my friend was as lucky as you, hes probably gonna break it off with his gf soon (4 yrs is a long time). The only reason he cant break it off is because she relies on him so much and she comes from a broken family (I know these are both stupid reasons to stay behind, we all told him that). He can't take anymore, he talks about it all the time when he comes out even we get tired of it lol. He keeps telling us that all he feels like is a friend who is being used the shit out of, there is no difference between them and just best frds etc etc etc.

We all told him its not only the sex and the physical part of a relationship and he knows, but without it, seems like the fire and passion will die out much easier. Sex alone cannot survive in a relationship but there must be a connection/companionship also. Either one of these left alone will die but the trick is to find the balance to keep it strong.
haha thank you! i think that she finally realized that this was the main issue we kept getting into fights and finally took me serious when i told her i wanted to sit down and talk about it (well we were lying in her bed LOL) but you know i just explained im not looking for sex everyday i see her, ill satisfy with 2-3 times a month lol and in the end she told me what she thought about it but in the end it went more towards my favor lol anyways since we were in her bed im sure you know what happened next

sucks to hear about your friend though, gonna be a tough one after so many years!
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i just explained im not looking for sex everyday i see her, ill satisfy with 2-3 times a month lol
Trust me, if you are good, she will ask you for sex soon enough
Can't believe this thread got you laid though, its kind of hilarious!
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i had already had sex with her haha its just that we went into a dry spell after a couple of times and then the fighting started LOL



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