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The thin line between love and hate
Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...

View Poll Results: How Important/Often Sex In Relationship?
Not Really (1 time every 2-3 mo) 8 2.96%
Somewhat/Once in A While (1 time every mo) 37 13.70%
Often (1-2 time every week) 179 66.30%
Always (1 or 2 times every day) 46 17.04%
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Old 05-22-2012, 12:27 PM   #76
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Old 05-22-2012, 01:54 PM   #77
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LOLOL shit that sucks, what led to that
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Could be something as simple as the monthly visitor...
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Old 05-22-2012, 04:46 PM   #79
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while not needing to create another thread on the topic..

whats the best Lube out there?
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while not needing to create another thread on the topic..

whats the best Lube out there?
OMy or anything water based
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Old 05-22-2012, 06:53 PM   #81
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since we're on the topic of sex, what do you do when you're totally incompatible in bed, and that person has just the kindest heart?
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Old 05-22-2012, 07:20 PM   #82
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while not needing to create another thread on the topic..

whats the best Lube out there?
already discussed: already discussed: http://www.revscene.net/forums/65186...brication.html


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since we're on the topic of sex, what do you do when you're totally incompatible in bed, and that person has just the kindest heart?
incompatible is broad and subjective. what do you mean?
(you want anal / she does not ; you are fast and furious/ she is benjamin button ; you are adventurous ; she is not)

What type of relationship (bf/gf ; fwb; etc..)

I personally think, everything needs to be in context.
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Old 05-22-2012, 07:25 PM   #83
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lets start with stamina and actually feeling satisfied after having sex
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are you not satisfied or he? and but "after sex" do you mean lack of orgasm?

and "stamina" meaning frequency/sex drive or lack of energy while having sex?

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lets put it like... girl is not satisfied because guy can't hold it in and finishes too soon, and the girl still wants to do it, therefore unsatisfied.

Stamina as in duration of sex.

Overall incompatibility is girl has high sex drive, wants it all the time, guy doesn't seem interested in sex, sometimes rejects the girl.
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lets put it like... girl is not satisfied because guy can't hold it in and finishes too soon, and the girl still wants to do it, therefore unsatisfied.

Stamina as in duration of sex.

Overall incompatibility is girl has high sex drive, wants it all the time, guy doesn't seem interested in sex, sometimes rejects the girl.
well, i was with a guy who was like that....it sucks. is the guy aware that this is a problem? or, does he just think thats how its suppose to be?

does this happen all the time? like, even without foreplay he is a fast shooter? does he try to slow down at all?

there are a few suggestions I have:

1. Talk to him about it. You don't have to call him out and be like, "you shoot to fast, im not satisfied, you suck at fucking", etc.

2. SLOW IT DOWN. Start with a little foreplay...maybe some 69 so you both are working at something (some time I find it weird just to lay there and get head).

3. Take breaks...1/2 way through, if he is going to shoot, have him pull out and play with you a bit. You can give him a slow hand-job while he is trying to get you off with his fingers or mouth.

4. Use toys. Lets face it...there are times when we want sex to last a while and times when we want a quicky. It sounds like you have quickies, by default, so if it is a case where you a left unsatisfied while he is already done....try using a vibrator while he is fucking you. If it is a good vib, it will only take seconds for you to orgasm....then, it really doesn't matter how long he takes. If you do not want to use a vib, try using your fingers....it takes longer, but it may work.

5. Prep yourself. Get yourself 1/2 way there before you fuck and let him do the rest.

You could combine all the above or only one of the above. You don't have to call him right out and tell him he sucks....maybe just suggest "spicing it up" a bit? Also, some chick can orgasm with sex only. There is a reason the clitoris is on the outside and not the inside the vagina.

It is very rare that you meet someone....fall in love...and fuck like pros. Some times it takes some work/practice and it would be a shame to throw the towel in without trying a few things first.
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sorry, forgot to add about rejection:

rejection sucks. there seems to be some stigma out there that when a girl rejects a guy it is not a big deal....but when a guy rejects a girl...something is WRONG!

not ALL guys are horn-dogs and are DTF 24/7. Its shocking, but true. When he says "no" to sex, do you think there are reasons? tired? work? stress?

Guys brains are weird. Lets face it....for girls, all we have to do it open our legs. sometimes we get off....other times we don't. Guys are expected to pop wood and fuck to kill at a moments notice...and if they don't, something is wrong!! am i fat? am i ugly? did i do something? does he not love me!? etc...etc...etc...If a guy is distracted or preoccupied with life, it can be hard for them (no pun intended) to "get into it". This seems to happen more when they get older and/or mature (do guys ever mature?? ).

also, some guys just don't have a high sex drive or a sex drive that everyone thinks dudes have. society has seemed to ascribed this horn-dog mentality to ALL MEN, but in reality...its not all that realistic.

The best thing you can do it talk to him about it....dont pressure him...just ask. He may just be tired....his mind may be miles away....or, he may be a little embarrassed that he is a quick shooter? maybe introducing some things i suggested above will peak his interest?

try not to feel bad when he says "no".
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I worked in a nightclub for 7 years and said no multiple times.

I regret it now.
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for me, not that important
but what the fuck do I know? been single for a long time.
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I say it's important in a relationship. But what if it's sex and it isn't a relationship?
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not ALL guys are horn-dogs and are DTF 24/7. Its shocking, but true. When he says "no" to sex, do you think there are reasons? tired? work? stress?
I usually say no to the gf (not often) when I'm tired as hell. She just gives me a bj and gets me in the mood . That works for her. Stimulation goes a long way
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50 Shades of Grey is idiotic.

Though I suppose it's world expanding for people who have never been out of the missionary position but ultimately the guy gets the chick to do something sorta naughty after she assures him repeatedly that she wants to and she'll like it, he's very good about it and treats her well and she still shames him for it afterwards and dumps him.

It's all whiny and passive aggressive.

I would like one writer to make a book about a female character who enjoys sex and isn't shamed by it and has a bloody mind of her own.

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I say it's important in a relationship. But what if it's sex and it isn't a relationship?
thats the problem, the key is to find the balance between sex and actually having that connection and carrying on a relationship. Either alone wont work, they needs to be both in a relationship
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thats the problem, the key is to find the balance between sex and actually having that connection and carrying on a relationship. Either alone wont work, they needs to be both in a relationship
What you speak is true. Guess I'm looking at the friend's with benefit category then
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I would like one writer to make a book about a female character who enjoys sex and isn't shamed by it and has a bloody mind of her own.

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You had it...she sleeps with a guy named john in the end, and half the city before him.
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50 Shades of Grey is idiotic.

Though I suppose it's world expanding for people who have never been out of the missionary position but ultimately the guy gets the chick to do something sorta naughty after she assures him repeatedly that she wants to and she'll like it, he's very good about it and treats her well and she still shames him for it afterwards and dumps him.

It's all whiny and passive aggressive.

I would like one writer to make a book about a female character who enjoys sex and isn't shamed by it and has a bloody mind of her own.

/rant.
i thought Opal Carew's Secret Ties was very enjoyable. main character is a little shy, but she turns out well. it's about BDSM, DP, 3 guy type of action. she also makes chocolate penis lollipops.
couple of my girlfriends have gotten pregnant from reading Opal Carew books. we found out a pattern that it skips one and the next gets pregnant
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