|
Quote:
- Horrible spending habit, $700/month lease, no savings, works hard as a server, cooks and cleans - $40K CC Debt, delulu but high income - Able to save and invest but no F/T Job for 9+ months due to layoffs, bad job market and no urgency when applying for jobs |
the person with 40k cc debt at 28 is probably still trying to pay it off at 38 :lol |
Trust me there's lots of early 30s still living at home in the basement working sub $50000 jobs. I dunno if it's lack of ambition but apparently mental health and anxiety is a thing from that age and younger. I guess just waiting for parents to die to get the house. You're fucked if your parents doesn't own. It gets worse when you get into Gen z. Maybe it's the Canadian education system. :ohgodwhy::fulloffuck: |
Quote:
Other friend was 1 month into the qualification of the common law clause, thankfully ex didn't ask for much (or sue) other than buying them out of their "shared car". Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Mike, a good refresher on the reality of consumer debt is the below post that Bobinka made earlier this year when I was spiraling. Ofc not all applicable, but definitely a good read. Spoiler! |
Quote:
i swear you god damn mop headed kids are weird as fuck. Like y'all all have low testosterone or something. this is the rambling of some high school cunt writing in her diary. You just talk to women. thats it. you be you. stop fucking overanalyzing shit, stop trying to elicit "flags" from them. You talk to them, and if you detect they are a total basket case, you fuck them in the ass and then you move on. Sheeesh, it aint hard. Ive gotten some real quality ass before i was married and even nowadays, my supremely wagyu fat, bald, lazy ass can still pull some fine ass latina tacos on a business trip. You just gotta make them laugh, and be genuine. Can you make a group of dudes laugh? Can you hold a conversation with your buddies? Then its the same with the bitches. dont put them on some weird pedestal. CHARISMA !!!! like when you build your dungeons and dragons character, you fucking nerds. Put in 10 Charisma and then go to town on these NPC bitches. |
Seriously you guys are way too analytical. Just have fun and talk about shit you like and ask them about what they like, that other stuff can come later. Dating doesn’t need to be a fuckin excel formula. |
This is why guys and girls have such a hard time^ People are so jaded and closed off they don’t realize not everyone is like that. You go into a date with that attitude and it shows. The people I know that do well with the opposite sex now (my age and younger) are the ones that haven’t got caught up in this “dating sucks, the dating pool sucks, and everyone is trying to fuck me over” mentality. This is the fuel for shitty relationships. It’s a lot to do with the app dating as everyone treats it like it’s fucking LinkedIn and some sort of interview instead of going out and getting to know people while having fun. |
Some of you have been married for way too long lol. Friends of mine that have been married for 10+ years often say the same things. However, its like taking advice from someone who last fought a war with swords during a time when there was some sort of honor in battle. Its predator drones and hellfire missiles out there now in the dating world for the most part. If you're aren't at least somewhat vigilant, you're in for a world of pain :lol It can be fun if you want nothing more than a surface level hang out. Some people (men & women) tend to keep an orbit of guys/girls around that they meet off different platforms simply just for this and a side of validation. If you want anything serious though... may god be with you |
Quote:
More and more ladies look better in their 40's than mid 20's ... unless that's more of a reflection of my aging ... lol. Who agrees with me? |
Reminds me of all the PUA and people obsessed with that book "The Game" back in the day. Now pair that up with everyone's obsessed with their potential dates' salary and NW wow I can't even imagine how fucking shitty it is to date these days. |
I am imagining this scenario in my head where some girl shows up for a date with Atsulzer and he's got his flow chart primed and ready and she's just saying things out of pure energy/dynamic/whatever and suddenly it hits his flow chart and out of nowhere he's like "Do you like dogs? What's your favourite dog?" and she's like "WTF we were just talking about school what's this guy on about?" cuz she has no idea he's got this secret path of qualifier phrases built up he's waiting for her to hit on hahahaha Shit's wild out there. Nevermind there's apparently ZERO forgiveness for people speaking out of turn in these scenarios... ie: my partner one of our first dates made a joke like "People who don't change their hairstyle at all for like 10 years are obviously psychopaths" and I was sitting there like... uh... I haven't changed my hairstyle for like 15 years that's kinda judgy and she's going on before that about how you shouldn't judge people based on looks and stuff like that so kinda hypocritical... but I just let it go instead of being like "RED FLAG... ABORT" and later on when we knew each other better I asked her about it and she was like "OMG did I say that? Why did I say that? I must have been nervous or just trying to be funny" but she's kind of an awkward person that way sometimes. If I was following some fuckin flowchart I might have just cut things at that time and never have gone 3 wonderful years after it. There's always value in trying to see where other people are coming from or if you have misinterpreted something. I mean, you could be failing someone and never speaking to them again just because you didn't pick up on the fact they were being sarcastic or ironic when they said something to you. |
Yes i remember that stupid book. My introverted friend used to read that religiously. didnt help him get jack shit cuz all the reading in the world didnt work when it came to GO TIME. hes too shy to say anything meanwhile im throwing him easy layups and he still cant execute. He was one of those sad sacks of shit that always ended up being "friends" with the girl and helped them do everything like a total fag. He helped bitches move, fix their computers, gave them rides, etc. All the while, completely regulated to the friends zone cuz he never made a move. Eventually the bitches got used to it, and then boom! he turned into the retard shoulder to cry on, and the "big brother". just absolutely piss. couldnt get the girl, couldnt get a raise, and couldnt fight for what he deserved in the career. its all related. Without that drive, that hunger to take what is yours, you wont succeed in dating or life. you'll just be regulated to some backwater status and forced to watch these assholes pass you by because they were the ones willing to take the shot. |
Mike it's not on you if someone changes the rules of engagement 5-6 year into something. Like if the entire relationship was agreed upon with a pretense of no kids, yes one or the other can change their mind that's fine, but it must be done in the form of collaborative discussions and clear recognition that something has changed and discussion about whether it's something the other person is open to changing as well... it cannot come in the form of an ultimatum. That's just not right. A child will 100% change every single thing about anyone's life, but in your case from what I know of you on here from your posts, it will basically 180 most of what you do. You won't be working remotely, you'll rarely be independently travelling for probably 5+ years, you will be sharing finances, you will become a home owner rather than a renter probably, and if she's got a taste for the expensive shit right now baby mama world is absolutely chock full of things that get people with that mindset latched on to what's "best for their baby" organic everything this and that it's already crazy how much shit costs let alone what it costs when you want specialized or brand name everything. Proceed with the utmost of caution my friend. |
Quote:
|
Girls in their 20s today look like fucking teenagers to me now man. Doesn't help the way they dress look like how teens dressed in the 90s after raiding their dad's closet. |
Quote:
Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. A friend of mine who's in his 40s recently found a nice girl. He's definitely done some work i think to make himself more attractive and interesting. He got into doing stand-up comedy for a while, which probably was a good conversation starter. On the other hand, if the reality is any way a bit like this these days, there's a lot of blame to go around on both sides: https://youtu.be/0hhKOUvTDdU?si=m-3j25Q10Pcy_qO8 |
Quote:
Maybe you can negotiate peace deals in the middle east next? |
Quote:
Made of playdough, brains included. |
I appreciate the advice everyone, that was really cathartic and helpful. I don't want to derail a real estate thread any longer :lol More soul-searching to come :) |
Quote:
|
Quote:
|
Quote:
Quote:
At the same time, I did some math and it gets a lot harder to stay SF/NYC if we're not both dual income making 300k+. Quote:
|
less talk, more action! |
Quote:
Money: she’s actually more disciplined with spending than I am. She makes quite a bit less right now (just got bumped to around $120k, ~20% raise) and picked up lecturing at NYU/Parsons on the side. Social: super international friend group from London + NY. We co-host dinners, can go out with a promoter if we wanna dance (I used to DJ), and we’ve even gotten invited to stay in the French Alps / Oahu for free. Showing up: for my birthday she planned the whole day - hard-to-get resos, surprise party, the works. Where we don’t line up: biggest tension is future life + communication style. She’s more “I could live abroad and earn less if I’m doing meaningful/creative work,” and I’m more “I like the NYC/SF, high-earning track.” And we communicate differently - she wants more real-time reassurance, I sometimes go into problem-solving mode. We both have strong POVs and it's been very hard thought to go to therapy / have office hours for each other where we just talk about the hard stuff without getting defensive. |
you're like the HEHE of relationships. :pokerface: |
| All times are GMT -8. The time now is 08:11 AM. |
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions Inc.
SEO by vBSEO ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.
Revscene.net cannot be held accountable for the actions of its members nor does the opinions of the members represent that of Revscene.net